Like PPs have said, in the moment I probably wouldn't care, but to have just my DH there (if possible) would be the best experience. The in-laws won't die waiting and DO NOT need to see me hot and bothered/bloody/in any stage of undress! If it wasn't possible to have my DH there I'd want my mum to hold my hand for sure!
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19-11-2012 16:29 #11
19-11-2012 16:34 #12
I had my mum and DH, mum was fab because DH sort of freaked out and didn't know what to do but mum was giving me back rubs and all sorts
Also kept DH company because I didn't say a word in my 8 hours of labour.
My hospitals policy was 2 people but they would allow a third if I really wanted.
19-11-2012 16:49 #13
I had the lovely girl I had worked with for 12 months there (we were together all day everyday so got close) and a high school friend I'd reconnected with about 12 months beforehand there, through circumstance, not planning at all. They saw everything and my high school bud cut the cord.
19-11-2012 16:51 #14Member
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With DD. I had my mum and sister.lucky I had them both because the gas hose had a split in it and my sister wasn't 100% with it as she was standing next to it. With DD2 I will have DP with me, and hopefully my mum waiting outside just in case I need her
19-11-2012 16:56 #15Senior Member
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My MIL was honoured that I asked her, and I was happy to have her there. She was a great help. (My XH was the only one of her sons that had children, and she didn't have any daughters.) It was not the sort of thing that my mother would've wanted to participate in so I didn't ask her. (As evidence, I'll point out that when I got my first period my mothers reaction was to hand me a packet of tampons and send me alone into her room to put them on.)
19-11-2012 18:01 #16
I haven't given birth as I had a caesarean, but I have been in an incredible amount of pain (gallstone attack - I've heard it's worse than labour) and going by that, I don't think I would give a sh*t who was around in the thick of it.
There are people that annoy me in my life though, so I'd never let those people be around, just because I wouldn't want to end up wanting to knife them during the birth... lol. Or you know, thinking about how they're going to bang on about a certain aspect of it or tell all and sundry after the event (you know, gossipy inlaws who might go, "Oh my... and then she..." etc). I'd rather just make it as stress-free as possible so I'll avoid people I know are likely to bother me.
I'm happy with my partner, mother, daughter and midwife attending. If I had a close friend who I think would be a good person to have around, I'd have her too. You know, someone who is going to react well, not be like, "Omg ew... blood..." or something stupid. People that will be helpful and useful and mature.
I wouldn't be terribly worried about all and sundry seeing my vagina push out a baby though. I think that pain would just make me not care, going by previous cases of intense pain (also when I woke from my stomach surgery... worst pain of my life... I couldn't have cared if they had rolled me out in the reception and ripped off my clothes... I was too preoccupied with pain to care.
19-11-2012 18:08 #17
Re: Birth audience...
I didnt have anyone in the room as was going to be a emergency c section and DP was light headed from the rush. didnt turn out to be a c section.
I wouldnt mind them all being in the room but no looking down there. I think its so cute to see peoples reaction on tv but there faces when they look down there are priceless lol. I think witnessing the birth everyone is immedaitly attached to the baby instead of just seeing them for the first time after the birth and a cuddle
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19-11-2012 18:12 #18Member
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I had DF and my mum which was great but to be honest you have no bloody idea who is in there towards the end and you don't care! You can't focus on anything else other than getting that baby out of you!!!!!! Haha
19-11-2012 18:47 #19
In sorry you have such a bad experience
19-11-2012 19:10 #20Senior Member
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Dd1- mum, hubby & MIL & 2 MW
dd2- mum and hubby & 1 MW
ds1- mum, MIL, hubby, dd1 & dd2 & 1 mw
ds2 & 3- the first twin was hubby & my independent MW, second twin was hubby, IM, 2 hosp MW, a student MW, Ob, dd1, dd2, ds, mum, and 2 close friends.
I liked having all those people there but specifically said I wouldn't have all the extras that are usually there for twins as I didn't want a whole lot of strangers there.
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