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    Default Declining Baby Shower Invite?

    I've been invited to a baby shower of a person I'm not particularly close to, although I did invite her to mine but that was to keep the peace and she attended for about 20 minutes then left.

    Anyway the invite is for when I will be 36 weeks pregnant myself. This is my first baby and I don't know how mobile I'll be at 36 weeks, at the moment I'm starting to get really uncomfortable and wanting to stay home in my PJs with my feet up so I don't think I'll really be up for going out at that stage.

    Also I'm finding out if I have gestational diabetes this week, and if I do I've read there's a chance that I'll need to be induced early, so don't know where I'll be in terms of inducement at that stage.

    Is it ok to decline an invite because you'll be heavily pregnant? Or should I just got for a bit then leave? I feel like the effort involved in getting ready and looking presentable is more effort than I'll feel like expending at that point.

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    Default Declining Baby Shower Invite?

    You shouldn't have to give a reason for not being able to attend. Just say you are not available that day and send your best wishes.

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    Default Declining Baby Shower Invite?

    You wouldn't be induced at 36 weeks for GD unless it wasn't managed properly and became very serious. And you should still be quite mobile at 36 weeks.

    I'd just be honest with her. Reply thanking her for the invite and say you're not sure if you will be up to it but hope to make it and will let her know at a closer date.

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    I only attend baby showers for very close friends so I'd be fine with declining if I were you.

    At the end of the day its up to you though. If this chick is likely to get into a big snit if you don't go then you need to decide if it's worth it.

    Either way, still get a present to keep the peace.

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    Default Declining Baby Shower Invite?

    Quote Originally Posted by MrsOhara View Post
    You wouldn't be induced at 36 weeks for GD unless it wasn't managed properly and became very serious. And you should still be quite mobile at 36 weeks.

    I'd just be honest with her. Reply thanking her for the invite and say you're not sure if you will be up to it but hope to make it and will let her know at a closer date.
    100% this ^^

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    TBH I've never understood the concept of not being able to go places because you're pregnant.

    If you're not friends with her don't go. But don't say it's because you're pregnant, it just makes you sound too precious.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    If you're not friends with her don't go. But don't say it's because you're pregnant, it just makes you sound too precious.
    I agree, especially to a baby shower Considering the host is pregnant, too!

    I was going to say I don't get why people invite those they aren't close to so just say you can't make it - but she did make the effort to come to yours, even if just briefly. Personally I'd just go reluctantly but if you really don't feel up to it maybe send a congrats card or something instead.

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    AS you invited her to your baby shower and she made the effort to come, I would send a gift with a friend from you after declining
    I agree with this.

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    Default Re: Declining Baby Shower Invite?

    I would just decline, you don't need a reason.

    And to the 'i don't understand why you can't do things when you're pregnant' brigade, congratulations, would you like a medal for your relatively easy pregnancy?

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