Ex fiancees engagement ring.

[cluckcluck]

My dp was engaged about 5 years ago. He broke it off and kept the ring. He said he kept it because it cost him quite a bit of money and his ex hardly ever wore it.

So now we're expecting our first baby together and he wants to get engaged. He brought it up the other day and said he'd like to give me the ring (currently his mum has it put away).

I told him I wasn't sure if I wanted to wear his ex's ring. We aren't in a financial position to purchase another ring of the same quality.

I've been married before so I understand that a nice engagement ring isn't necessary.

I love dp with my whole heart and would love to marry him but I would feel weird about wearing a ring he bought for his ex.

I'm not alone am I ladies ?

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[silly]

I wouldn't be comfortable wearing a ring that was purchased for another woman by him, can you pawn it off and maybe use the money to get one that is for you, i don't really see the need for him to keep it now

[cluckcluck]

Yeah that's what I suggested.

He did take it to a pawn shop but they wouldn't even give him $100 for it. He has a valuation certificate with it, its valued at over $4000.

My suggestions were Ebay or let his mum keep it.

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[bunkx]

I wouldn't be comfortable wearing a ring that was purchased for another woman by him, can you pawn it off and maybe use the money to get one that is for you, i don't really see the need for him to keep it now

I agree

[Bellavista]

Would you consider taking it to a jeweler and having it redesigned using the materials of the old ring to something you can both design and would make it your ring?

[cluckcluck]

Would you consider taking it to a jeweler and having it redesigned using the materials of the old ring to something you can both design and would make it your ring?

I hadn't thought of that. I'll talk to him and see what he thinks.

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[silly]

ebay would be a good idea as long as he puts a decent reserve on it, or gumtree, trading post, guess he just needs to work out how much he wants for it and if he's prepared to let it go. I can understand not taking $100 for it that's pathetic for it's value.

[cluckcluck]

I might suggest Ebay again. Quite honestly I'd be happy with a $200 ring, as long as he picked it for me.

[ermergerd]

I would never ever EVER wear a ring that was bought for another woman. I just couldn't. I couldnt even have it remodeled yuck. I think ebaying it would be a good idea

[SassyMummy]

I wouldn't wear it.