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    Default Re: Do you have easy babies, difficult babies or a mixture of both?

    Quote Originally Posted by CuddlesAwait View Post
    They are right you would be shocked especially wif that's what you think. I'd say 95% of it is that she's a happy baby (by chance) and 5% the environment she's in.

    It's a little offensive to those with difficult babies, it's not 50% our fault, there's nothing wrong with the environment my DD is in, we were just unlucky to have a baby who is difficult and nothing in her environment would ever change who she is or what her needs may be which make her a difficult baby.

    All I can say is good thing there are easy babies out there or we would all be one child families!!
    I disagree. I think environment and parenting personality/style make up much more than 5%. I believe stress during pregnancy may also contribute to baby/child behaviour. Studies have shown cortisol (the stress hormone) affects babies development etc in utero. I would argue environment plays a much bigger role in a babies nature than 'chance' (by this do you mean genetics?). I also believe some 'difficult' babies may have undiagnosed underlying issues, lactose intolerance or reflux come to mind.

    Of course my opinions are just that, my opinions, they are not backed by research. But I also think the claim that the majority of influence on a babies behaviour is 'chance' or 'luck' is quite unfounded. Not that I blame the parents of difficult babies, quite the opposite I applaud them and I acknowledge that their genetics and personality are beyond their control, but none the less they influence the babies they produce.

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    Default Do you have easy babies, difficult babies or a mixture of both?

    Now there is a topic, nature vs nurture, but I think even Plato and Aristotle decided to agree to disagree on that one :P

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    Default Do you have easy babies, difficult babies or a mixture of both?

    I agree, environment has to do with more than 5% of the child's temperament. Sometimes with difficult babies in my opinion, it creates a roller coaster effect, where they are unsettled, which causes the parents to become stress and unsettled, which in turn makes baby more unsettled and upset and goes round and round until bub becomes too tired to fight it.

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    Default Do you have easy babies, difficult babies or a mixture of both?

    How can it be environment when 2 children from exactly the same parents/environment are completely different?

    I look at my 2 everyday and am amazed at how different they both are, when they've been born and raised in the same house by the same parents.

    Nature/nurture both have their impact on children.

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    Very lucky and thankful we have a contented 'easy' baby. Hardly cried (till 8 teeth came through at once), is very easy to read, provide for his needs, and keep happy. No health or feeding issues despite being prem, even when he painted the walls with projectIle milk for a few weeks due to reflux you didn't know till you found the evidence. He was so quiet about it. He smiles for every stranger, is fine in busy environments and doesn't mind if our routine goes out for awhile.

    We were lucky to be trained by the Special Care Nursery in baby body language and how to 'read' babies. I wish all parents could get this training, as it makes it so much easier to understand your baby, be they the easy or the challenging kind.

    Now bub is becoming a toddler, he is frustrated by boundaries, but is otherwise still happy, smiley and sweet- mostly!

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    Default Do you have easy babies, difficult babies or a mixture of both?

    Quote Originally Posted by Super Trooper View Post
    I disagree. I think environment and parenting personality/style make up much more than 5%. I believe stress during pregnancy may also contribute to baby/child behaviour. Studies have shown cortisol (the stress hormone) affects babies development etc in utero. I would argue environment plays a much bigger role in a babies nature than 'chance' (by this do you mean genetics?). I also believe some 'difficult' babies may have undiagnosed underlying issues, lactose intolerance or reflux come to mind.

    Of course my opinions are just that, my opinions, they are not backed by research. But I also think the claim that the majority of influence on a babies behaviour is 'chance' or 'luck' is quite unfounded. Not that I blame the parents of difficult babies, quite the opposite I applaud them and I acknowledge that their genetics and personality are beyond their control, but none the less they influence the babies they produce.

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    I kinda agree.

    Happy placid child + tense environment= anxious child

    Happy child + happy environment = happy child

    High needs baby + happy environment = generally happy child

    High needs + tense environment = not a happy child.

    I think environment shapes the way we deal with life.

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    Default Do you have easy babies, difficult babies or a mixture of both?

    So far, at 5.5 months, DS is an easy baby. I think the most difficult bit is that he is an early riser, 5.00am most days, and I am not a morning person! Oh and the night wriggles at the moment as he is just about to crawl.

    I know it could all change soon though!

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    I keep looking at the title of this thread over the last few days and I can't for the life of me work out how to answer it!! I mean, what is the criteria??

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    For me, "easy" means DS is a happy content baby, who is easy to read, doesn't scream/cry, and is a flexible go-anywhere baby. Which is exactly what I ordered

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    ***High needs baby + happy environment - happy environment destroyed by high needs baby = everyone strung out and exhausted.

    (Oh I jest..... mostly..
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