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    Well it's good he wants to do things with him like the swimming lessons and visiting after work.

    Yes I had to just let exDP visit and be involved with DS when it suited him. It was really annoying and hard for me as I did all the hard work yet he got to pick and choose when and what he did with DS!

    Most least he's not trying to pressure you regarding DS and be a jerk about it though. That's refreshing to hear!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pesca77 View Post
    Thanks for that link, very interesting reading.
    I think I read that link at some point too... But to be honest I think you know best when your bub is ready for sleepovers. There's so many factors involved (are they familiar with the new house; did they live with the other parent; does anyone else live there and who are they; does bub sleep through or wake during the night and may fret).... Etc. lots of things to think about. I didn't really feel comfortable about DS sleeping at his dads until he was old enough to say 'daddy' and get excited to see him, which showed me he was comfortable with him.

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    I was 5/6 months pregnant with my second child when my exH and I split. My 2 year old DS1 went to him straight away and my DS2 started spending a few hours a day with him at about 4 months I think as I was breastfeeding. Once I started formula feeding which was around 6 or 7 months he was spend one night with him and slowly worked up to 4 nights a fortnight which is the same as my DS1.

    It absolutely broke my heart - but he managed well with it and my DS1 bonded well with him and I felt it was important to eventually keep my boys together. I also wanted DS2 to form a father/son bond with his dad as I didn't want that lacking. He is a goof father though so I had no reservations in terms of his parenting. It was jsut hard for me as I missed my boys. They both now have a very healthy strong relationship with both myself and their dad. They are now 4yrs old and 20 months. If I felt it was detrimental to either of them I would have changed the circumstances in a heartbeat but it seemed to work well.


 

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