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16-10-2012 17:42 #31
16-10-2012 17:42 #32
I don't think free birthing in itself is giving the home birthing movement a bad name, it's more the rhetoric that accompanies it sometimes. I get that not all free birthers are loudly admonishing hospitals and going on rants to anyone who'll listen about the evils of intervention. But like anything, there's a vocal minority who do. It's those people who are tarnishing the movement, not the responsible mothers (and fathers!) who make the decision that's best for them and get on with it.
On the flip side, there are also people on the hospital birthing side that have their fair share to say to anyone who'll listen too.
Instead of throwing stones over the fence at each other, why don't we just have support in place for all birthing options? And respect each others choices?
FTR, I had a hospital birth and would never birth at home on purpose. But that's mostly because I don't want to clean up afterwards!
16-10-2012 17:44 #33
16-10-2012 17:45 #34
16-10-2012 17:58 #35
Blame the media for their ongoing anti-homebirth tirade and using single, uncommon cases to support their nonsense.
A mother will usually make the choice she does because she believes it is best for all involved. Sometimes, it's not the case, but we do not have crystal balls telling us the outcome, so we pick what we're most comfortable with, and go with that.
The media are vultures for using a woman's heartbreak to push their point. That's in the MEDIA'S hands, not in the homebirthing mother's. Her decision is not to blame for negativity. The media is.
ETA - it is truly disgusting that a mother's decisions are always blamed when it's a homebirth/freebirth. If a woman chooses a caesarean and then her baby dies, why is she not subjected to the same crap as a woman who chooses homebirth?
The stupidity of people never fails to surprise me.
Last edited by SassyMummy; 16-10-2012 at 18:57.
16-10-2012 18:53 #36
As I've already said, I have no issue with safe home births.
I do have an issue with how births/pregnancies are classed as high risk, I think the degrees of risk within that category vary drastically and would consider a large portion of those births to be fine for a safe home birthing situation.
I do have different views on unborn children's rights, I know it's a moral minefield, but having a qualified, experienced medical professional who has an ongoing relationship with you available to you and choosing to go it alone is incomprehensible to me. No matter how awesome at birth you are and how confident you are with your own abilities, the benefits of having someone there in case of emergency surely outweigh having someone 'intrude' on your home.
Yes, a portion of women have been birthing alone for over 2000 years, but as you have highlighted, the unexpected does happen and having a medical professional on hand ups the odds for survival for both baby and mother.
I'll advocate for safe home birthing until I'm blue in the face, but I will never accept planned free birthing as a responsible choice.
16-10-2012 19:14 #37
It's perhaps just a case of a few extremist's ruining it for all. You can birth however you choose to birth.
I have encountered a few people on the extreme end of the freebirth/homebirth spectrum. One preached to me for hours one night that I was basically a murderer if i chose to have a baby in a hospital as all doctors do is kill babies. Another (who was my own SIL) went into labour 8 weeks early and refused to believe she was even in labour. My mum tried to convince her that it might be a good idea, just to get checked by a midwife to see what was going on. They eventually went in kicking and screaming and baby was born at the hospital about 2 hours after they got there. He was 8 weeks premmie and needed oxygen to breath in the beginning. So i'm just saying, there def are the extreme ends of the spectrum out there, who preach that you're a bad person if you want to have your baby in hospital. It might be these people the article is referring to.
Personally i think every mother probably know's the right choice for her, and it's her choice to make how she give's birth. You can't force your choice on someone else though.
Last edited by Clementine Grace; 16-10-2012 at 19:16.
16-10-2012 19:16 #38
*by elective I mean for no medical reason, not even emotional ones.
I find it abhorrent that a woman would advocate for the above choices a woman makes for herself but won't support a woman choosing a planned freebirth. Just incase you or anyone else is not up to speed on the risks of cesarean birth http://www.motherfriendly.org/Resour...bruary2010.pdf and of not breastfeeding http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2812877/.
I want to say I DO support these choices (again) just in case it was missed earlier. The irony amazes me.
16-10-2012 19:20 #39
Where I get stuck on the planned free birthing is that I don't see a risk in having a MW be present.
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