As the title suggests I've been invited to a friends baby shower and the invite has requested a contribution to be made towards the baby's nursery. This is not a close friend, we've never just hung out together but will normally be at the same social situations.
IF I was buying a gift I would normally spend between $25 to $30 as I like to new born shop and you can always pick up specials throughout the year. BUT only giving $25 to $30 seems really cheap. Although being a SAHM with another on the way we really couldn't afford to say give $50 towards the nursery.
I don't want to seem cheap so thinking of just buying a gift and ignoring the contribution request or is that just ignorant?
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13-10-2012 19:26 #1Senior Member
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Baby Shower requesting money for nursery..can I give a gift instead?
13-10-2012 19:32 #2
I'd just give the $30 cash that you can afford.
13-10-2012 19:34 #3
Personally , if she was not a close friend i would just give cash as they requested, I'm sure any amount would be appreciated and if she did not ask for particular items you may end up buying something she may not want and waste your money anyway?
13-10-2012 19:35 #4
I normally really hate being asked to give money for something like that. I probably wouldn't mind if it were a family member or very close friend. I think it is rude however to only ask for money and not give the option to give a gift if thats what you prefer... TBH I would be torn because I wouldn't want to give cash and I would be worried about getting a gift so I probably wouldn't go at all
13-10-2012 19:49 #5
Id give the $30. To me, $30 seems to be the 'normal' amount to spend on others who arent very close to you.
13-10-2012 19:56 #6
Tough decision - on one hand you want to respect her wishes. But on the other hand, I think it's a bit rude to request cash from people you aren't close with at all IMO. You also don't want to be the only person walking in with a gift.
Is there other people you could combine the money with? That way the amount isn't as obvious?
13-10-2012 20:04 #7Senior Member
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It's so awkward when people ask for money because it puts pressure on people. I think it's so rude!!
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13-10-2012 20:04 #8
I am not big on the whole asking for money thing (other readers please don't be offended if you do it's a personal thing and just my own opinion, each to their own).
i do not think there is anything wrong with buying a nice gift for the nursery within your budget. Baby bunting or baby road or other baby shops have lovely little affordable gifts. I like to buy books, as bubs tend to get given heaps of clothes etc and I think books are something mums can read to hubs and then the bub or child will get enjoyment from them later too.
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13-10-2012 20:09 #9
This is why I really dislike people asking for money, and I agree with a PP that it's rude. Far out people are becoming greedy and self absorbed. What happened to just being grateful for whatever it given? If the nursery is costing the parents to be so much they need to get others to pay for it, maybe they need to rethink it.
baby showers are meant to be about celebrating an imminent birth. Not grabbing for cash to pay for the costs of your baby.
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13-10-2012 20:34 #10Senior Member
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if you arent offended by the notion of giving money i would give the money. honestly ppl give you so much baby stuff that u hardly use i find. i wouldnt feel bad about giving $30 either, i think thats reasonable. i dont mind the whole asking for money these days but mmm for a baby shower, bit weird but really so what...youre gonna be 30 less whether its cash or a gift so why not make her happy.
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