Hi just curious to know if its just me? I'm so absentminded and keep making the most stupid mistakes. I have a pretty busy life as a single mum of 3 and work 3 days a week but for some reason I can't stop beating myself up for my mistakes lately... Eg posted the wrong item to an eBay buyer, got several dates wrong with family members re babysitting, typos galore! And even Tuesday my mother was babysitting while I was at work and asked if I had a staff meeting that afternoon and I told her no its on Wednesday... But of course it's Tuesday it's always Tuesday! I've become so muddled lately my patents are becoming very wary of my memory about things...
Tired, over worked, depressed? Wonder what's up do I can fix it?
Trying to tell myself I'm not stupid (just scored to ranking in my profession) but sure it's getting worse. Advise?
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10-10-2012 23:36 #1
11-10-2012 07:51 #2
Write stuff down and keep a calendar. I call my calendar my 'brain on a wall'. Hard to have downtime with so much on your plate but can you organise some time to yourself to recharge? Do they have someone who can look after them? I'm going away for a night this weekend for my birthday, first proper break from the kids in 4 months (they don't stay at fathers at all and we recently moved an hour away from family) boy am I looking forward to it.
I also find supplements like b vitamins and omega 3 makes my concentration a little sharper.
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11-10-2012 09:44 #3
Do you have a diary? I work full time and am a single mum and my diary is my lifeline, it is never more than arms reach away from me and stays in my handbag always. I write EVERYTHING down that I need to do, in minute detail - I put phone numbers, membership numbers, contact names, every tiny detail in with every entry.
If I think of something during the day that I need to do at home that night (eg call my mum, put bins out, look up a phone number, pack DD's swimming bag etc) I write it in my diary as soon as I think of it. If I think of something at home that I need to do at work the next day, it goes in the diary.
If I have to post something it goes in the diary with the address, contact number and anything else relevant. The receipt sticker goes in the diary.
And apart from that, accept that you are human, that everyone makes mistakes and forgets things and it's not usually the end of the world
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11-10-2012 09:46 #4Senior Member
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Yep my short term memory has completely gone. I think it's because I'm so busy and overwhelmed about all the stuff I have to do and organise, running a household on my own etc. without having anyone else there to remind me of things I have to do etc. Also I'm a terrible decision maker on my own, even for the tiniest most insignificant decisions, so I tend to put those kind of things aside 'to do later' and then forget. It's quite terrible.
I have a traditional paper diary that I use, it's great when I remember to write things down in it LOL, which I do most of the time but sometimes I forget! I've also just set myself up with 2 papertrays on my computer desk, the top tray is things to do, eg bills, school notes, and the bottom tray is stuff to file away so I don't lose everything.
11-10-2012 12:03 #5
My DH is terribly absentminded. It drives me bonkers! But I have been thinking of ways to help him improve his memory (none of which he has been doing though).
Having a diary is a great idea for practicality, but have you ever considered brain exercises to improve memory? It really does work. I have a horrible brain, Adhd, insomnia, poor organisational skills and raft of other retarded things going on, but I have a sharp memory and rarely forget things. I put this down to an obsession with puzzles, brain teasers, crosswords etc.
Just an idea.
11-10-2012 12:18 #6
Thanks. I have a calendar on the fridge door but should really use my paper diary and keep it with me.
11-10-2012 12:30 #7
Yep! Except I find when I'm not working (I do contract work at the moment) and life is less busy, I'm far less organised and more forgetful!
I have a notepad on my fridge that I write down everything I need to do or buy on - the pen sits on top of it so it's always there when I need it! I tear off the page every (or every second) morning and take it with me. I have a pen in my handbag as well in case I need to add anything.
If I didn't do this everyone around me would be worried about me as well trust me!
The funny thing is, I always manage to forget at least one thing on my list!! I'm still trying to figure that one out!
PS. I also use 'reminders' alerts on my iphone for future things, as well as the notes app on my iphone to keep note of all sorts of things, thoughts, ideas etc.
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