Egg donation - a few questions please

[MamaNurture]

Hi all, I wanted to ask a few questions about egg donation! Anyone mind if I pick your brain?!?

I'm hoping to do some egg donation in a few years. My DH and I have one beautiful DD who is 9 months old. We have always said we would want 1 child, and our family is feeling complete. I'm not expecting that to change but who knows with life! I'm still breastfeeding and hoping to for at least another year, so this is more something I'm considering in a few years time. Would also like to wait for DD to be a bit older as I'll be out of action for a few days and may be unwell with drugs etc (as I understand it).

Anyway

Would anyone accept me as an egg donor given I am overweight? I am 100kg, so very big. But I am healthy and was lucky enough to fall pregnant with my DD first try.

I have a family history of cancer, as my father passed away recently aged 65yo and my grandmother at 83yo has breast cancer. My mother also has early onset osteoporosis and arthritis. Would this affect my eligibility?

Is the donor able to have any say about what happens to any embryos which aren't used? Would hate to think they were disposed of, would rather they were donated to another family?

Thanks!

[Jayell]

Hi MamaNurture

I can't answer your questions unfortunately because I am a hopeful egg recipient but I haven't been chosen by an egg donor angel yet

Nonetheless, I wish you all the best in your path towards baby number two in a few years time

J xx

[DianaB]

Actually the most important question is your age. Unfortunately egg quality declines rapidly after 35 and that makes success rates lower so many IVF clinics won't use a donor over 36 but some will go up to 40. If you find people you feel comfortable doing a donation for and they bond with you too then the fertility specialist at the clinic can advise.
In Australia any donor embyros become the property of the recipient. Hopefully recipient parents who are like-minded to you would feel the same way about any spare embryos. There are people whose only hope is a donor embryo but embryos are very hard to find. You are lovely for wanting to make sure this could be an option too.
Good luck on your journey, you must have a very special and generous soul- far more important than what your scales say.
Diana

[MamaNurture]

Thanks for your replies!!

Diana, I tried to send you a PM but I don't think it went through?

[V8]

Hi all, I wanted to ask a few questions about egg donation! Anyone mind if I pick your brain?!?

I'm hoping to do some egg donation in a few years. My DH and I have one beautiful DD who is 9 months old. We have always said we would want 1 child, and our family is feeling complete. I'm not expecting that to change but who knows with life! I'm still breastfeeding and hoping to for at least another year, so this is more something I'm considering in a few years time. Would also like to wait for DD to be a bit older as I'll be out of action for a few days and may be unwell with drugs etc (as I understand it).

After my egg donation i really had no side affects, was a bit groggy for a day, but no real pain, soreness etc, was really pretty well a smooth procedure. I had two children at the time, and was still breastfeeding one of them. I donated my eggs and then went on to have a third child.
Anyway

Would anyone accept me as an egg donor given I am overweight? I am 100kg, so very big. But I am healthy and was lucky enough to fall pregnant with my DD first try.

As a previous poster said, weight really doesn't matter, overall health, quality of eggs and your age is the biggest criteria for donation, so i'm sure weight wouldn't be an issue, i was probably nudging close to 100kg when i donated too, so it wasn't an issue

I have a family history of cancer, as my father passed away recently aged 65yo and my grandmother at 83yo has breast cancer. My mother also has early onset osteoporosis and arthritis. Would this affect my eligibility?

They are more concerned with genetic abnormalities i would imagine, cancer etc isn't something anyone can predict, so they would perhaps just take it as background medical info, but not something that would disqualify you for donating

Is the donor able to have any say about what happens to any embryos which aren't used? Would hate to think they were disposed of, would rather they were donated to another family?

This is covered in counselling sessions with the intended parents and the donor, in QLD once you donate your eggs and the sperm is injected and embroy's created, they are no longer property of the donor, they become the property of the recipient. If they have any left overs, they sadly cannot be on-donated as it's unethical or something, my recipients were fortnuate enough to have 4 embies, and had 2 successful pregnancies, she's due with her 2nd bubba in Dec
Thanks!

Any further questions, PM me if you like, be more than happy to chat. It truly was a wonderful experience and i'm so blessed to be able to have helped another couple become a family

[Trying to get by]

Hi there,
I'm curious about the process of being an egg donor recipient. My own ovaries are fairly dead and I've only ever had two embryos from 4 IVF/ICSI rounds (neither of which implanted). I've been given a less than 5% chance of success for any future IVF rounds.
My husband is uncomfortable with the idea of getting a donor egg to see if that would work (I've been given a 40% success chance with a donor egg) but I'm desperate for a family.
I'd be interested in how others have found the experience -- a] did it work for you b] costs and time taken c] emotionally, for those lucky enough to have fallen pregnant, how did you and your partner feel towards the developing baby (my husband thinks it wouldn't really be our child and it might feel a bit weird). Is it better in Australia or should I consider looking at overseas options (if I can turn my husband around). I was thinking of approaching one of my two nieces to the donor - both have had kids and are in their early-mid 30s.
Please help -- I'm looking for advice because not being able to fall pregnant is tearing me apart.

Thanks so much!
Jane

[inklestar]

Hi Jane, I am an egg donor and have just finished my second cycle, with another to follow in August. Feel free to pm me with your questions and ill help where I can.

Kind regards
Amelia

[Cristabelle1979]

Hi just read your thread are you still donating??