I bed shared for 4.5 years, loved it! My son is now in his own bed, loves it, had no problems with the transistion.
Your husband will eventually learn that having kids means you do what is best for the kids, and all kids are different. My son NEEDED Co sleep. Some kids just do.
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28-09-2012 12:36 #11
28-09-2012 13:05 #12
What do you do? You wake him up to get the baby, bring the baby to you, and then take the baby back and resettle him in his own bassinet. And if HE doesn't want to do that, but is more than happy for YOU to... and for YOU to be continually tired and dead on your feet and exhausted... then you say that THAT doesn't work for you.....
I can honestly say, having had 5 children in a 5 year period.... that I never got a proper sleep until we decided that co-sleeping was not only the best option, but the only option. DH did not want me to go through anything that would be detrimental to my health and ability to enjoy our family, including constant sleep deprivation... And bed-sharing worked for us. And still does.
Why does your DH want to see you, the woman he loves, in a constant state of tiredness???
PLUS- babies sleep much better and have a lower risk of SIDS when safely bed-sharing.
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28-09-2012 19:03 #13
DH is on nightshift for tonight, sat and Sunday so it gives me a good opportunity to try and see how we go without added pressure. I think I will just explain to him that if it is what she needs right now then why should we stress her and me out when there is such an immediate solution. I will reassure him that its not a permanent thing, and how can we possibly even think about what she is going to be like in 6 months or 2 years time when she is only 8 days old? A little comfort to this massive transition isn't so much to give surely. Oh and ill reassure him about our intimacy not suffering. I think he knows this is the case anyway as I'm ready to go except I'm not healed lol! The only thing I can't understand is why she is perfect in the bassinet of a day time but not at night? Any ideas? Is it more frightening in the dark? Thanks for all your replies so far x
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28-09-2012 20:18 #15
Point him to the couch if he has issues with it - nobody is going to try share it with him.
Seriously though, I think my partner wouldn't be keen either, but if it's me getting up and down all night to crying, or a baby in the bed sleeping and me sleeping too... I don't even think I'd give him a choice. I would just do it. Until he's the one with the milky breasts and the one getting up a billion times a night, he doesn't get a say IMO.
28-09-2012 20:18 #16
Oh so she sleeps in the basinette during the day... Sounds like a comfort thing, she mustn't like it at night, honestly at 8 days old just do what ever works! I like your plan hope it works for you
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03-10-2012 18:59 #17
photo (52).jpgAfter explaining a few things to DH and his mum agreeing that doing whatever works at this point I have faced very little arguments from him bub and I have been sleeping great at night and she is feeding soo much more throughout the night, where as in her bassinet she would only feed once all night. So I am a much happier mama.
Just one thing I am worried about, I have googled as much safety info I can on co-sleeping and know that bub should be on her back however we constantly fall asleep whilst breast feeding which results in her sleeping on her belly with her head resting on the side on my boob. Is this dangerous? I sleep propped up on two pillows, so semi reclined, with another under my arm which supports her. I'll post a pic as its her fave position day or night so I have heaps lol.
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03-10-2012 20:07 #18
cluck cluck cluck cluck!
She is just adorable and looks so content and peaceful
I used to lie on my side with pillows propped up behind me and have DD lie on her side facing me, she would often roll back onto her back and sleep on her back with her head turned to me and still attached (the advantage of having big, saggy boobs!!).
03-10-2012 20:45 #19
My DD didn't come in to our bed at all for the first 6 months, the from 6-12 months was in our bed a lot and then at 12 months went back to sleeping through in her cot. No bad habits to train her out of, she just didn't need to be in the bed anymore.
If it is such a big problem, get a close and secure sleeper for her so he doesn't worry, or a sidecar cot.
03-10-2012 23:07 #20
She looks very comfy.
I've co-slept with 3 of my 5 boys, always falling asleep while feeding. I think she looks pretty safe to me.
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