Im watching the Morning Show (shut up, I love Larry Emdur, what of it?) and there was a quick segment on people in their 20s having 'quarter life crisis'. The 2 people "weighing in" on the topic were over the age of 30 and said things like 'get over yourselves', 'you're not as hard done by as you think' and 'this is the time of your life'.
Now.....this kind of got me thinking. Any older generation seem to think that the youngins have it sooo easy nowdays and should stop complaining BUT at the same time they dont know the struggles the younger generations are currently going through. They might have had SIMILAR experiences, but not exactly the same.
So is it fair for older generations to make the above comments or should every generation respect eachothers struggles and not compare?
(when replying, if you dont mind, can you state your age or general age please. Would be interesting to see different ages opinions)
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27-09-2012 11:29 #1
"Quarter Life Crisis"
27-09-2012 11:36 #2
This really annoys me...
I had a quater life crisis. However at 25 I had 3 children, mortgage etc.....which many 30+ year olds have. Why is it that 30 year olds have more "in depth" or "harder" problems then of someone in their 20s?
It all boils down to circumstances.
27-09-2012 13:11 #3Senior Member
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Yes, being in their 30's...they have recently passed through that stage and have relevant insight...if the people weighing in were in their 60's then maybe I could see your point.
Every generation has people that have diff circumstances...when i was in my 20's some of my friends had kids, others of us were single and partying. We used to have "1/4 dead" parties lol
I do think people fuss more now...i think social media has a lot to do with that. I think people have become a lot more self obsessed and spend lots of time thinking they are the centre of the universe. It's like the whole "FML" phase...where it would be the ****iest things and people were carrying on like it was the end of the world. "Oh, missed my train FML" etc etc
It's a shame...so much now seems to be about who has the most FB friends and how many people comment on their stupid duckface pictures and fighting with friends family on the net and breaking up and making up like some kind of TV drama. Now, it does not apply to everyone...but, it is growing...the up and coming generation needs an audience for everything and the 1/4 life crisis just seems to be another one.
So yes, i think the 1/4 life crisis is just another attention seeking, social media driven, "morning show sponsored" self indulgence.
wow, i am really ranty on this topic. I do know it is not everyone...so don't come back with "oh but i am 25 and i didn't have one/am not on fb/don't think like that"...that's awesome...because it means my view does not apply to you! This applies to the seemingly vocal majority that are living their lives on FB and *****ing if they don't get enough attention.
27-09-2012 13:13 #4Senior Member
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I think every generation is known for bagging other generations. Gen X bags Gen Y, Gen Y bags whatever the new generation is called, Baby Boomer's bag everyone...
But I also think its just a natural thing. As a previous post said it can be easy to look back with rose coloured glasses, forgetting how you may have experienced those same struggles or even forgetting that that generation will have new pressures and struggles which yours did not.
I do think the current trend of labelling everything makes it worse though. I mean a lot of people have a snap, or a freak out or a change in direction in their twenties. Have done for generations. But now its been 'labelled' it seems like we're trying to make it sound more important to our generation than it was to others which may invite some derision.
Im 29. I can't say I had a 'quarter life crisis' though. At 23 I was married with a kid and a mortgage (still am!) and we're simply 'getting on with it' I guess.
Wait...I was 24 when I had the kid.
Last edited by WineTime; 27-09-2012 at 13:17.
27-09-2012 13:27 #5
27-09-2012 13:37 #6
I didnt see the piece in question but I'd heard my gen have been having quarter life crisises. A lot of 25-30 year olds Arent married, dont have children, a lot dont have established careers, uncompleted or no tertiary education (still deciding what to do "when they grow up") no savings, many with huge credit card debts and nothing to show for it, a high number of 25 year olds still living at home With no path to even the glimmer of hope of owning their own home.... Im not surprised many people my age are looking back on a decade of adulthood going "wow what have i actually achieved?" And getting a sense that maybe time is wasting, yes you've still got the rest of your life but if i got to 25 in that boat Id definitely be taking a moment to set some goals and new direction or else the next decade would be just as fruitful.
27-09-2012 13:50 #7
27-09-2012 13:54 #8
I remember all through high school there was so much pressure on what I was going to do with my life career wise. It felt like every single day we were being asked, nagged and reminded about how failing at high school would impact our lives and we would never have a good job or money.
I remember numerous meetings with the guidance counsellor and my parents because I couldn't tell them what uni course I wanted to do when I was in year 10...
I don't think it's surprising that people are having a quarter life crisis...
You graduate uni and get paid a pitance, with a reminder every week that you owe thousands of dollars in HELP/HECs fees when you get your pay slip, then you go home and read/watch the news and there is fear propaganda that the cost of living is rapidly increasing, that housing prices are through the roof and everyone is about to lose their job.
And once you start your graduate job after completing a uni course that you felt pressured into because you didn't know at 17 what you wanted to do with your life, you realise it's the wring career path and it doesn't suit you at all...so then the question is do you study again?
And what about relationship and families? Everyone expects movie style romance, because we've grown up with nothing different, and the reality is movie style romance doesn't even exist. The baseline for relationship expectation is totally through the roof.
I don't think it's a toughen up thing...I think teenagers and young adults shouldn't be under so much pressure to make serious life choices that may be wrong for them when they're an adult. There is a big difference between 17 and 27...I also don't think people should use fear and propaganda to motivate teenagers and young adults...this just sets them up for fail....
ETA: I am also sure it's been hard to transition from childhood to adulthood for people across many generations, but I don't think dismissive attitudes is anyway to help the situation. I think it's actually quite rude!
Last edited by Luna Lovegood; 27-09-2012 at 13:58.
27-09-2012 18:44 #9
I'm 26, and teenagers give me the absolute irrits. I often tell my 7-year-old daughter to "never become a teenager." Some are okay, but just having them near me at the shops or whatever... clogging up the toilets because they're modelling new outfits purchased (while I'm waiting so DD can pee!), or when they block the aisles to chat about who pashed who (or worse), and just their hideous fashion choices... and their obnoxiousness (swearing and saying vulgar things out loud without a care in the world about the fact there are little kids all around) etc... I dunno, I just hate them. They make me irrationally angry.
So I guess I can't really complain when people whinge about me due to my age.
As for a "quarter life crisis," this is actually the term I used recently when describing myself to DP. Since losing a fair bit of weight since this time last year, my whole world has changed, and it's put me off. At least a fat girl I knew who I was... the fat girl. Now I'm just fairly average, and people treat me so much better... and it's giving me freedom, but also scaring me and making me want to experience new stuff... I feel like all I want to do is reinvent myself several times a month... make new friends, etc etc. I feel a bit all over the shop tbh. If I was in my 40s and doing this, people would DEFINITELY say midlife crisis! lol.
So I dunno, I'm not exactly you're average 26-year-old. I've been a parent for over 7 years. I had no youth. I wasn't that kid who had done it all before they were legally an adult... I didn't really do anything in my teenage years, and then had no chance after I became an adult either (I fell pregnant 6 months after turning 18). I don't spend all my time holidaying, partying, shopping, getting a billion new gadgets a month, etc. I think my situation, and other younger parents like me, are a bit different to your standard young, childfree people our ages who can just pretty much be selfish and do whatever they want.
Last edited by SassyMummy; 27-09-2012 at 18:47.
27-09-2012 18:50 #10
I never had a 1/4 life crisis,I just didnt have time
I guess because when I was 25 I already had a husband,2 kids, and a mortgage.
I think if I was still single and childless I prob would have though...
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