i am new to this whole chat thing,but am reaching out as i feel so out of touch with society,does anyone feel the same?we go shopping and people stare as if we are diseased!or another comment my darling gets"all the same dad?"we have been happily married for 14yrs and together for 21yrs,all my old mates have gone their own way with 1 or 2 kids,so they dont really keep in touch no more,we are proud of our kids,well mannered,respectful,but the judgements get me down!like we are only having them for the money!total BS!i have worked since 16yrs old and dont plan on stopping anytime soon,up until 2 yrs ago my wife also wrked since 15,can anyone related?
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22-09-2012 14:40 #1Junior Member
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dad of 5 with one more coming
22-09-2012 14:44 #2
Yep, We gets looks comments but I have learnt to just say something positive about my tribe. There are so many wonderful things about having 6 kids.
22-09-2012 15:55 #3Senior Member
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I know what you mean, we are having our 3rd, and our other two are 2 & 4, and the looks we have gotten from people is amazing.. seriously what the hell?! it's not like we have 30!! it's only a 3rd. as for friends, most of them have said along the lines of ""don't you have a tv""... or to my hubby - ''gees, you like to look after your wife''.. or '' tie a knot in it''..
or if we're out and run into someone who we haven't seen for a while and they see my belly they do the whole eye boggle thing. it's annoying.
22-09-2012 22:36 #4
Well I only have one so far but I would love to have a big family and I get the look just talking about it! The inevitable question "are you going to have more?" I always say "oh ya" enthusiastically and when I say I'd like 5 or 6 or even more oh well it's like I have two heads... Why can't people be happy that I'm enjoying motherhood so much that I want more? I think children are blessings and its sad that sometimes things like money or holidays or partying come before a child.You should take a family picture and pit some stats on the back, like yes all same mum/dad, been married 20 yrs yes happy yes 6 liters of milk a week and give them out to the starers!! Hehe
24-09-2012 10:51 #5
yes, i can relate and I had only four. I had one son, then twin daughters. Everyone then thought my next baby must have been "an accident" because why would you want any more??? We definately wanted another baby, and had our second son. We did get some comments about 'such a large family" but we were very happy with all of them. Dont let others comments get to you, live your life how you choose, and enjoy it. Marie.
09-10-2012 18:05 #6
We get it all the time, the stares, the unasked questions (are they all yours?) But most of the time we get positive comments. A lot of elderly people say that it's wonderful to see someone with a large family again. Many parents with only 3 or 4 say they'll never complain about being busy again! But although I never planned it this way, I would never have it any other way. Our kids are (generally) well-behaved in public. They get a lot of joy from each other. And they do fight (and 6 kids fighting together is not good for the nerves), but I think if they had the choice, they wouldn't have it any other way either.
About the only comments, or insinuations that rile me are those people who say that we are living off welfare, which couldn't be more further from the truth.
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