If you don't have the conversation you will end up resenting your sister and possibly damaging your relationship anyway. What you are asking is reasonable and just. Sometimes people just bank on you not asking and things just continue. I'm wondering if you not having the conversation is a form of continuing to enable her to behave like this - it could be the push she needs to get going in her life. It's hard but necessary. You are justified.
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25-09-2012 08:13 #21
25-09-2012 09:09 #22
This may sound harsh, but you're paying your way- if your parents are struggling, that's their issue. If they want to get by and tighten their belts, so be it. You're not your sister's parent, you have no obligation to help her find a job or talk her into helping your parents more. that's their business and their issue. It's really hard to keep out of these things, especially when it's your own mum getting stuffed around, but do try.
25-09-2012 12:53 #23
26-09-2012 06:34 #24
Now that I think about it, yes- I think my sister is manipulative. But, she has been struggling with my Dad over the last month or so, more than usual. With his laziness, and sometimes it feels like he does certain things just to get at people (my Mum, myself and my sister). I suggested she get a job. I find that not being around him 24/7 helps with my Mum and my own sanity. 2 stones, 1 bird and all that. So, after she agreed (kind of) I printed off a kmart job application and took it home to her. She wanted me to fill it out which I refused- afterall she'll probably ask me to send it off, she can surely do some of the work involved to get herself a job. We'll see how that goes. Somehow I can see it not eventuating into anything.
26-09-2012 06:48 #25
I know people (close to me) that have come out of a psychosis and afterwards have taken years to mobilise. They have also banked on others looking after them and it's almost an expectation of theirs 'because I'm not well'. It can only go on so long before those looking after them become unwell due to the strain of caring and taking the load. I think with everything you're doing that you could be the next in the cycle. Getting back to your OP - definitely do not take another job I think you will lead yourself into both physical and emotional exhaustion. You could have developed a sort of 'compassion fatigue' with your sister, where you just become worn out emotionally and mentally. Have you thought of some counselling for yourself to handle this situation?
26-09-2012 12:44 #26
She was in a very stroppy mood last night because the wifi wasn't working. Mum fixed the internet but we couldn't get the wifi connection to work. Mum didn't eat dinner until 8pm, and she was buggered. She just doesn't seem to recognise the effort, esp after she's been at work all day.
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