I think people feel obliged to bring a present of some sort. Even if you write 'no gifts necessary' Im sure some will still bring something small and that just makes it an added bonus.
When I had my baby shower for DS, I didnt expect presents, especially nothing big. A few onesies, some bibs, bonnets, booties and mittens...those kinds of small things which are cheap and cute.....Id be shocked if I went to a party where big ticket items were being gifted and even more shocked if I was invited to one that had a gift register!
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20-09-2012 11:36 #21
20-09-2012 14:06 #22
I dont like the idea of having more than one shower. I think it's a little greedy for presents and greedy for attention (sorry if that sounds bad). Having one baby shower to celebrate your baby and first time motherhood is reasonable to me..sorry.
20-09-2012 14:45 #23
I think that it's ok considering you didn't have one with your first. But I hate the whole 'present grabbing' idea of baby showers. Gender reveal party, that's a new one! Do you have a baby shower too or just the reveal party?
20-09-2012 20:26 #24Senior Member
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I think its great, especially if you didn't have one with your first. I'm going to have a baby shower with my second (didn't have one the first time around), I don't care about presents but I really want to play all the silly games with my friends, I think it will be fun!
Good for you and have a great time!!
20-09-2012 22:26 #25
Baby shower for 2nd baby
I had a baby shower for my first and my friends are throwing me one for my second. There is an 8yr age gap & this bubba is IVF, so all my girlfriends want to celebrate. I'm certainly not expecting or wanting presents, but I understand they want to buy gifts for the baby (as do I when my friends are pregnant, baby shopping is fun!).
I think if you haven't had a baby shower or the age gap is greater than 5 yrs, it's fine.
20-09-2012 23:06 #26Senior Member
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Thanks for everyone's thoughts. I don't look at it as a way to get presents and I would never put a gift list or registry on the invite. I agree with those who say every baby should be celebrated as I have noticed soo often that the 2nd baby doesn't get the same attention.
There will be a near 3 year age gap between our first and this bub. I have all the things I need. For me it is more about celebrating a new life with friends and family and catching up with people.
21-09-2012 08:33 #27
A friend of mine didn't have hers as she said it would be weird and people don't have baby showers for second babies... But I was keen!! I would have loved to have gone to her shower!! I think it's a celebration of a new life coming so why would we only celebrate the first!!?? I do think tho that people might be put off as they are expected to bring gifts so I would maybe address that point.
02-10-2012 20:21 #28Senior Member
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My best friend (who is 1 of the 2 friends that planne my first shower) asked about having one for my second too..
I was a little iffy, purely as I don't like a lot of attention & didn't want to appear as a present grabber.
I'd be happy to stipulate on my invite no presents necessary, but the get together would still b nice for you and something to put in the baby book I'd also still call it a baby shower, even for my second, even if specifying gifts not needed.
I know a lot of my friends would like to bring at least something small anyway, especially if I'm putting on all the food, cakes, drinks etc !
I have been to only 2 baby showers, one for a new mum and one for a third time Mum(I gave gifts to both)
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