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    Default Shy/anxious child and Kindergarten

    Was hoping for some feedback from people who had shy/slightly anxious children and how they adjusted to starting Kinder. DS1 will be starting 3-year-old kinder next year and I'm very nervous about it as he has always had a lot of anxiety when in social situations.

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    My son is now 4.5 and started at 3 years old in long day care. He has Aspergers and therefore can be anxious quite a bit..... He loves it! Yes, the first 6 months of last year would be spent with him crying as I left after I dropped him off, him clinging to me etc and a few nightmares he would have at night time.. But he learned to love it soon enough :-)

    Be brave, do up some picture schedules or a book to read to him (ask the kindy if u can go in and take some photos of his room, where his bag and lunch will go, his teachers etc and make a book) and I'm sure he'll be fine :-)

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    Sorry my post sounds a bit blunt. I'm on my phone, but will be back when I get on computer... I know how you're feeling :-)

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    Default Re: Shy/anxious child and Kindergarten

    My socially anxious son went to large group daycare at 3, and has been there a year. For ages, he struggled socially, played by himself, sat on edge of playground etc.

    Then he made a little friend, and it's helped his social development heaps. He plays with a few other kids now, and it seems to have taught him that there are benefits to having friends, whereas before he had little interest and was scared of other kids.

    I have found it a good test in how he will go at school, and it identifies areas we need to work On.

    Flag the issues for the teachers, so they can give him a bit of extra help.

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    Default Shy/anxious child and Kindergarten

    OMG I totally understand your worries! I have a 2.5yr old girl. She is also very anxious and shy in social situations! It's weird because she is a very confident little girl with most things, very active, she loves indoor play centers and even at our playgroup she tries to play with some of the children.

    BUT when we go to our music/singing/dancing class she will be so anxious... She will cling to me and just sits there and doesn't join in bc there are too many ppl in the one room... She also doesn't like you'd children and babies as she freaks out when they cry!
    She also won't talk to/look at anyone other than close family even at play group if the other mothers talk to her she will look into the other direction and ignore them..
    We tried Kindy a few months ago but it was horrible! I would leave for an hour at a time and she would cry the whole time and hide in a corner cause she was scared of the kindy teacher...
    I dread ever having to take her to Kindy but I know it will have to be next year so she can get used to it... 0
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    I found it really comes down to the quality of the carer/s that makes the biggest difference. My son is very anxious and started a 3 year old kinder program at the start of this year. We asked the carers to really keep an eye out for him and he took a long time to settle in, and still now will be in tears sometimes about getting dropped off. But we call and check on him regularly and it give us piece of mind. Really, it's the attitude of the carers that will make the world of difference.

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    My anxious & shy ds started childcare at 3 and did ok. He was a bit anxious about it, but mostly was ok for the first 6 months or so, then the teachers thought he needed to talk to the kids more than the teachers & when he went to talk to the teachers they discouraged him. They didn't tell us for nearly 2 months they were doing that and it made him quite upset. We pulled him out a few months later so he could start 4yo Kinder (all day) elsewhere.

    When he started 4yo Kinder it was SO different. But, we noticed that the best thing was that all the children turned up at the same time - he'd found it stressful to turn up & see the kids already there and playing, especially if he didn't recognise any of them. He never cried at drop off for Kinder ... it was great. He was still socially a little behind the other kids, and he ended up doing a 2nd year of 4yo Kinder - he was almost the youngest in the class last year. He is such a different child this year - so social, it's great to see!

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    mim1 as a childcare educator I find it absolutely disgusting that these childcarers did that to your ds. Its the shy/anxious children that need a little extra attention. Not saying that all children dont need extra but confident children are more than happy to explore and play with other children. If I have a shy less confident child in my group I try to pair them up with another quiet child. I certainly dont send them away or discourage conversations with them, how deeming to their self esteem! and how else am I going to learn about that child as a whole.
    If I had an anxious child who was starting somewhere new Id be informing the carers/teachers and asking what stratergies they use to help anxious children settle in and become more confident.
    Goodluck witchypoo


 

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