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    Should happen o the bully?

    I think that the bully should be made to go to counceling to find out what's going on to cause them to bully then be made to find a new school.

    Please note: this is just a discussion on what people personally think should happen in school bullying cases. It is in no way meant to offend or start arguments. Please refrain from nastiness xxxx

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    I think counseling is a good idea, however not sure how effective it would be, as I think bullying stems from the home environment.
    So what I'm saying is, I may be wrong, but if a child is a bully in a lot of cases you see the parents defending the behavior so they probably wouldn't want the counseling . A problem needs to be acknowledged before it can be fixed.

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    I definitely think counselling is the only option... Other than that I guess in most cases as the child matures etc they will generally stop bullying.. If they don't... counselling

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    Default What do you think *pos trigger*

    I think a couple of things are needed.

    I agree the bully should have counsellIng to get to the root cause of the problem. Also, the victim needs to feel safe and until the bully get their $hit sorted if they need to be removed from class/ the playground then so be it.

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    I agree with PP, bullying usually stems from a home environment of bullying -so perhaps family counselling of some type?

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    These are all great points and I agree with them all x

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    I think one on one, and family counselling would be the best option. But if the behavior continues then suspension or expulsion needs to be considered. I think the suspension should be with school work to be completed and family meetings with the school to try to rectify the situation. Putting together action plans and consequences and having the bully agree to a 'behavioral contract' of sorts.

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    I would have to agree with PPs. I think the bully should be made to attend counselling, and the family notified in the first instance. If the child's behaviour does not improve, family counselling. I think there comes a point where other children are suffering as a result of bullying, the bully should be removed from the school. I think sometimes there is too much emphasis on helping the bully, rather than on the wellbeing of other students.

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    Default What do you think *pos trigger*

    I think there should be consequences maybe being the new kid in another school might put them in an uncomfortable spot and learn a lesson or two, so change school.
    The 2 main bullies that were after me in school one killed himself in his early 20's so there were some issues there, counseling might have helped, the other one I tried to talk to him when I was 19 or so and I couldn't believe he tried to do the same bs he would do in school, I couldn't believe he hadn't grown up! I felt sorry for him and everyone around us thought he was a D**k and gave him the cold shoulder so dunno...
    It's definitely an issue that stems at home...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bonkers View Post
    Should happen o the bully?

    I think that the bully should be made to go to counceling to find out what's going on to cause them to bully then be made to find a new school.

    Please note: this is just a discussion on what people personally think should happen in school bullying cases. It is in no way meant to offend or start arguments. Please refrain from nastiness xxxx
    That's never going to happen. Private school yes public school no.
    Unless you want to take away people's right to free education, which would make things worse.

    Agree with the counselling though. I think that's a great idea. Work out why someone is bullying and work on that. Children who bully should be segregated. If they are bullying on the playground for example they should be kept away from the other students and off the playground for a while - when they can show that they can mingle with other students they can be allowed back. Maybe made to do an anti-bullying course/social skills program?

    Given conflict resolution skills. I'd also like to add that as a teacher I've seen schools AND parents encourage bullying by either not doing anything about it or worse rewarding the behaviour. I think a school needs to have a tough No bully tolerance and needs to come down hard on the behaviour.

    I definately agree about trying to find out why the child is a bully though.

    I think as you said counselling is needed

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