Partner left me just before i found out i am (6 weeks) pregnant and not a resident.

[ktroo]

no unfortunately. Looks like I will have to go back to the UK, lose my job and I can't take my dog with me to my mums. I lose it all.

[boodles345]

If you ever need any support just drop me a message, I looked on your profile and you aren't to far from me. I used to live on the northern beaches but we recently moved the the central coast. It's always good to have friends around you.
I would make an appointment with immigration to see what your options are. They can help you see what your options are.
The visas are quite overwhelming at times and it can take a while to get sorted, I waited well over a year before I was even assigned a case worker to my application!

[petal12]

hi l cannot advise you as no right or wrong with this. But your message was noticed by myself as this is what l was wanting some years ago. l am also engliash and a single mum. l also did have and do have citizenship and wanted to stay in oz. l think l drove myself a bit mad with putting alot of pressure on myself to stay in oz. l did do the first year there then went back always was my intention to come back. l would be lying if l did not say l do not miss it at times and feel sad about it. l have athree year old girl now. l cannot imagine my life with out she truly brings more joy to me than where l live. l have moved in the uk to somewhere more rual but able to access help. l do not have much family emoitional help but have practisal and financial input and also can be part time to an extent which l would not mange in oz. l live in the north of england feel free to cah if you would like too. l think if you wish to saty you sort someting out with her pr l knew a single mum who stayed there till she got it. l am not sure how she afforded it. You may be surprised by how nice it is to have a friend come round when you have been in all day with a bay. l think for me things like finance and owning a home here and parks and things become important . l know it mad but it took me a long time not to feel have not let my daughter down by coming back to the uk but to be honest l think l had pnd in oz without having anyone around to make me realize it. You will find other support sites have you tried poms in oz sorry think l have wittered on. l think what l am trying to say is you will be at times overwhelmed with love for your child that it matters more than where you live and you will overwhelmed with tiredness at times that someone coming round to help with be so important best wishes xxxxx

[petal12]

HI Katie
How are you doing chick.

Have you looked up typing in the words space 4 single mothers ..... its something like that. l joined it when l was in your boat. lts a website for single aussie mums its looks at friendship to babysitting to also shared accomodation. l listed myself on it re shared accomodation . l initially shared with my two good uk friends for ten months from one moth prior to the birth. l moved inter state as did not really have any support where l was working. When my daughter was nine months l moved as they both moved in with partners. Try and get advise re gettting your perm residency asap as then you will be entitled to oz benefits including the baby bonus which was a god send to me. lf you keep the baby join some mum groups after and you may well find a friend to click with their are many ex pat women in oz as they have no choice but to stay through partners name on birth cert etcl know its not the same for you. Dont be feeling under pressure from your ex partner as he is likey to in part be motivated by not wanting to pay maintence but you can obtain benefits without it. l know its a scarey time l felt scared but your life can go on and obtaining the ability to stay in oz now or later is always possible. will you get maternity pay if kept the baby l did not but that was around time length re my contract. lt will work out either way whatever you decide pm if you want to chat any more l dont have any judgement either way around keeping the baby or not xxxxxxx

[ciaomamma]

Far out! U poor thing... I went through a partner visa and even not being pregnant and having a support network it was hard emotionally draining frustrating and time consuming.
I don't have a solution for you but you'll probably have to go back home for now anyway, it might seem like you're loosing it all but think about the wonderful precious gift you have growing in you. Find a good home for your dog, sell your things and try to concentrate on the precious life that's about to come. Also you'll need family to help you, raising a baby is hard work and family is important and hopefully you'll be able to come back with bub.
Forget about that **blip blip blip** he's no good anyway I'd tell him there's no baby so he doesn't pop up in a few years wanting to be dad.

[ktroo]

Hello, thanks for the replies. I have been offered a years unpaid maternity leave, and will go to Uk for 8 or 9 months from mid march I have a friend in Cairns who will look after my dog, and hopefully my best friend is moving here from Dubai with her two kids in November. Hope that all works out! I just have to figure out how I can go back to work then. Does anyone know if there is a cheaper solution to childcare? I have found it is $120 a day for non-resident. I can apply for residency after 10 months of being back through work.
I am determined to get back home to Australia.

Thanks again x x x

[threechooks]

Look into 'family day care' its only $5-$10 per hour.

[ciaomamma]

Look at findababysitter.com.au perhaps a SAHM, lots of flexible arrangements there :-)

[BbBbBh]

Hi!

-live in aupair
-nanny share
-move to suburbs. Daycare can be cheaper there.
-house share with another mum and pay her if she is a sahm.

[petal12]

That all sounds like a wonderful plan l am so glad its all working out for you. l am sure child care would not cost you that much l think the days price was seventy dollars a day child care when l was in australia . l could get the rebate but that was the full price for people who did not get the rebate. l am not sure if you live in an expensive suburb if thats why the price is so high! double check it and like people have suggested you may well find an alternitive that is cheaper such as child minder or the like. Can apply for your esidency earleir than when you are back in oz. As the friend l had who applied for residency said it took nearly two years from the application date to the granting of residency so if you can do it earlier it will help with your childcare costs. When you are in the uk you should be able to save as well cos you will have your mum about. l think it will all work out great for you and your life will be so much richer for having a child to share the journey with and when here you cant imagine your life without them. lt sounds great chick and l am sure you will get home to oz. Which part of the uk will you come back too keep in touch will offer you new bub tips! any way feel fee to private message if you want also. lt will be fine xxxxxxxxxxxxxx so exicting!!!