it worked my me and my partner at the time,and we have now been happily married 3 and a half years. it takes alot of work and alot of disxussions but if you are both committed to it it can work.
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04-09-2012 13:14 #12
Working for us also. Just make sure that you take things slowly instead of jumping straight back in, and that whatever issues you had previously are well and truly fixed, or it will just repeat itself. Good luck.
04-09-2012 13:19 #13
Hasn't worked for me. FOB and I have been on and off for 8 years, we get along really well one minute and fight the next.
04-09-2012 13:21 #14
Re: Has it ever worked second time around?
DF and I are on our 2nd shot - we are both doing seperate personal counselling and couples counselling and communicating more on a whole. It isn't easy, and it will take a lot of work to get back to where we were, but yeah we will get there
My DD's FOB and I tried again when DD was almost 2, so we'd been seperated 1.5yrs. There was nothing there, no left over feelings etc & just didn't work.
Make him walk over coal for your heart - he broke it once, be needs to prove he won't do it to you (and bub!) again. And if he truly loves you, he'll do anything it takes..
Me 27 - with DS, 7, DD, 2, and beanie due 1/5/13!
04-09-2012 13:33 #15
I believe that if it didn't work the first time it never will, that's just my thoughts on the matter though. If you truelly love someone you should be staying together and working through your problems together. When dh and I were going through a very rough patch many years back we both agreed that either we stay together and work at working it out or we break up never to get back together. The fact we never doubted that we loved each other made it work.
Best of luck with whatever you decide.
04-09-2012 13:44 #16
It would depend on the circumstances for me.
If we had separated for something major like cheating, abuse, cruelty, then no way!
If it was circumstantial like new baby, just drifted apart, depression, then yes if the feelings were there.
For me, certain things are unforgivable.
04-09-2012 14:26 #17
Has it ever worked second time around?
It worked for DH and I. We were separated on and off for two years, the last time being a year. We slowly started trying again for a few months before he came back home.
The main problem previously was that things just slipped back to the way they were. This time is different I think as we were apart so long and he was desperate for me to take him back that it really has been better. He is a very different person now and is so much more patient and loving and we've had none of the problems from before. We're now due to have our 5th baby in less than 2 weeks and things couldn't be better.
It hasn't been an easy road though and we've had some very judgmental family and friends who insisted I was doing the wrong thing (still do think this even though things have never been better) but we're getting there. Making it all about us and our kids and happiness. I'm so glad I decided to give it another shot!
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