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    There are a few, very few, over entitled people who will make judgements like this. The fact there are a few doesn't make you feel any better however.

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    This attitude surprises me. I find it offensive and beige.

    Some people also choose to work because they think that actually makes them a better parent for themselves, their family and their child.

    Ignore it and be excited about a whole new world opening up for yourself.

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    Istyban - just so as there no other nasty surprises, here aall the rest of the judgments and hurdles you'll have to face;

    http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/f...r-Working-Mums

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    Ugh. I've had both sides of that.

    When DD was 4 weeks old I went back to work part time (which was essential for my sanity at that time), and I got a lot of horrified judgments from all kinds of people. (And I was leaving her with grandparents and her dad - but apparently that was still terrible...)

    When she was 7mths old I stayed at home for a time - and that was equally awful in the eyes of some.

    You can't win. Whatever you do someone will think badly of you for it. You know that you're doing the right thing for your family though, and all I can say is to hold on to that and try not to let the snarky people get you down. I know that isn't easy.

    I've decided that my cat has more informed opinions on things than many people in this world, so as long as he approves of my choices (which he always does) then all is well...

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    Yep, no matter what you do, you're a bad mum to some. You work, you're selfish. You stay home, selfish as well.

    Just keep on keeping on, knowing you are doing the best you can and are trying to make the best of the situation handed to you.

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    I've decided that my cat has more informed opinions on things than many people in this world, so as long as he approves of my choices (which he always does) then all is well...
    I wanna be a cat... ah the life

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    I know it feels a bit hurtful when people who are your friends are judgmental like that.

    Just remember that judgment comes from insecurity. They don't mean it, they just aren't quite comfortable with themselves so feel threatened by a different way of doing things.

    Hopefully, you will find some people at your new job who understand your situation a little better. I'm sure they won't have nearly the same issues with working mums.

    Anyway, if you feel like your friends' comments are getting to you, just say this to yourself (I tried to make it rhyme so you can remember it )

    My friends are the best that they can be
    It's just that they don't always understand me
    I love my kids and do my best
    So they grow up full of life and zest
    I am a hard working, responsible mum
    My kids have a good role model and a full tum!

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    Default Re: so mad at people!

    People are idiots. Congrats on the job!

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    Default so mad at people!

    I work 36 hours a week and I have never had any judgement from my friends and most of them are SAHM's People can judge all they want but you have to do what is right in your situation Congrats on the job.

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    Default so mad at people!

    I can't believe your friends would openly judge you like that

    Can they not see you are having a hard enough time as it is with your separation?

    They should be supporting you, not making you feel worse. How disappointing.


 

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