Hi, my daughter just turned 11 and has had pubic (but no underarm) hair for around 12mths now. About 2 months ago she was having some changes in CM etc and I prepared her for school by explaining how to use a pad, what is happening to her and answering any questions she had. I remember that I got my period at school when I was 13 and although I knew what it was, I was unprepared. So, she had a few pads and some panadol in a ziplock bag. But.....on the weekend we were away on holiday, shopping and she got her first period there! I had to have her mind her 3 younger sisters (in parents room) while I ran down to woollies for pads/knickers. So, my advice to you is make sure your little girl has pads on hand for wherever she is going!! Also, I am wanting to do something special to celebrate this enormous occasion in my daughters life. Maybe a dinner just me and her , or a special piece of jewellery . I think it is a natural and beautiful thing (in terms of one day being able to create and carry her own child )
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20-03-2013 21:39 #21
20-03-2013 23:11 #22Senior Member
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I was an early developer. 9 when I had my first cycle. My daughter had breasts developing at 9 and p. hair following closely behind. Her first cycle came at 11.
Talk through everything. How normal it is, of course she doesn't want it now, but all of those girls saying things like "dirty" when it comes to a natural process that ALL girls will face should be felt sorry for. When their time comes how awkward and horrid would they feel?
When DD first started developing she was picked on, even by her close friends, simply because she was the only one. We actually moved her due to a number of factors and she is very happily NOT the only hormonal girl in the new school. This helps. Isolation and being singled out hurts. The big thing was to not make a big deal about it all, but listen and discuss other perspectives. "I know you don't want breasts/hair/periods now but there's no point worrying about that, all girls get them, let's talk more about how you can respond to hurtful comments..." type of thing.
It seemed to help making our DD feel normal, more assertive and yet also more empathetic towards the ignorant girls who were going to get a much ruder wake up call....
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21-03-2013 07:38 #23
When my DD has her period she prefers to wear the school shorts instead of a skirt. And if she has to wear a skirt she wears small short shorts underneath. Just another option to think about.
21-03-2013 07:48 #24Senior Member
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Just wanted to recommend a book for you - Its called Poppy Pretzel and is written from the little girls persepctive. I actually read it before I gave it to DD and it is a good one. I have also been recommended the Kaz Cooke one.
My oldest has just turned 12, I am as open with her as I can be, but sometimes it can be difficult.
As someone else suggested, I took her shopping so she chose some pads and liners and has a cute little bag to keep them, and some spare underwear (and a nappy bag to put others in), which she keeps in her school bag.
21-03-2013 08:57 #25
When I first got my period I told my mum and said to her that I felt like a woman now. She laughed at me and said no you are not. You are still just a kid.
I felt so belittled. It was terrible. I was feeling so proud of myself and she made feel awful.
So a nice dinner or something with just the two of you sounds wonderful!
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