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    I have had a couple terminations in the past. 2 were for medical reasons. I also have 3 children and have had 3 m/c and just found out I'm pregnant, very planned.
    I have an app at the high risk clinic and when they asked me on the phone how many preg I have had I said 6 (didn't know I was preg until this week).
    I felt bad I didn't tell them about terminations but I'm so guilty and ashamed I couldn't.
    My question is, do they really need to know ? Thanks x

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    :-( I feel for you, it's a hard thing to deal with, miscarriages or terminations for whatever reason always stay with you. If only we all knew how we'd feel about it years down the track... Anyway about your actual question, I would say they need to know if there were complications, like a uterus perforation or hemorrhage. If the terminations were before your pregnancies I wouldn't worry too much about it. It helps them figure out what kind of shape your uterus is in... and potential problems you might have so maybe tell your ob when you have a visit and explain you didn't want to divulge such information, I doubt you will be judge or get any reaction (if you do, it would be highly unethical) in this day n age.
    Good Luck with your new bub!

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    Aside from the 2 MT's you've had you don't need to tell them about the ones you chose to have without medical reason. If the reason for your MT's was to do with your body or the babies then they really should know, if it was because of some sort of depression you were experiencing then I would just mention that to my OB when I saw them the first time.

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    They are professionals, and they hear this stuff every day. They really need to know about your terminations because it can cause complications with regards to having babies.

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    Default Termination history

    I don't think they need to know the number of terminations you've had, but it is important to let them know you have had a termination.

    I had a complication from my termination which led to a late miscarriage in my next pregnancy. If I had disclosed that I had a previous termination they may have monitored my cervix length and prevented my MC.
    Not trying to scaremonger, just sharing my experience

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    Default Termination history

    Quote Originally Posted by beebs View Post
    They are professionals, and they hear this stuff every day. They really need to know about your terminations because it can cause complications with regards to having babies.
    Agree with this.

    Hugs xx

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    I think your better off telling them. They aren't going to judge you and it may be a vital part of your care. I've had a Medical Termination in the past and even though i hate to think that I did that i've still told any medical professionals that have asked I don't think they ask for no reason.

    Congratulations and good luck with your pregnancy

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    Default Termination history

    I have had 1 termination back when I was in high school!
    I told them and wasn't judged in anyway!!! They will not judge you!! An if they do they aren't very professional!! This type of thing shouldn't be new to them!!

    Tell them, everything will be fine!

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    You should tell them. They are not asking to pry or judge, they just need your medical history so they can provide you the best care possible.

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    Thank you all so much. I hope I have an approachable doctor! Haha
    The guilt I feel is incredible. I'm 38 so have lived a while and had a few experiences. I had to have an d&c with 2 m/c and 1 because they found I had 2nd stage cervical cancer. Then another 2 from accidents and men that didn't want the responsibilites. It makes me feel so disgusted in myself thou. I think preg hormones are making it worse cause I haven't given it much thought lately until we were ttc.


 

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