... and thanks tigger for new thread, great idea.
You need some answers and I think K'iesha should squeeze some out!
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16-08-2012 13:33 #41Senior Member
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16-08-2012 13:41 #42Senior Member
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OMFG girlies. I went away for lunch, and apparently someone knocked up MrsJ! Well done MrsJ - I reckon that is a great beta number for 17dpo!
1xbabyplease - we may have lived slightly similar lives. I did a 4 year degree and then a research PhD - so 10 years in all. Still working in the uni system. I work in what is a good karma area too, and that karma woman, she doesnt visit me either
And I had another big breakdown last night with one of my good girlfriends, who BTW has 8 kids (yeah - thats right, 8!!) and said the whole Ive left it too late thing too. And truly I feel like we are being punished by someone. Like we have done something truly bad.
Sorry for complaining girls. And Tigger and Clem, I do feel some of your pain with the losses. I dont know how you do it multiple times really. Well I kind of do, I mean you put one foot in front of the other when you can...but it plainly just bites (but I am talking with the universe again for you Tigger - not that I doubt your instinct at all! I knew we were going to lose our twin girls too - and Ive not been preggers before ever!)
God my back is killing me - where's my good knickers!!! LOL
GL everyone thats PUPO.
Cyber hugs everyone.
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16-08-2012 13:42 #43
Tigger - it sounds as though you're really unhappy with Dr B, which can't be helpful. Would you consider trying someone else at the same clinic? Livingstone is lovely.
16-08-2012 13:42 #44
Oh and Disney, you are NOT leaving. We all get negative, its part of the game. I have been soooo negative lately. This is a place to vent and get things off your chest.
We all understand, we're all here to support each other and try and have a laugh about our collective bad luck
16-08-2012 13:49 #45
I just got DH's Sperm DNA Fragmentation results and it has come back quite high (or severe as the form puts it) at 30%.
The Scientific Director thinks this could be a reason our embryo's aren't the best, even though they are graded AA etc.
DH has been advised to take Menevit for 3 months, or ejaculate everyday for the 5 days leading up to egg collection, except for the day before he does the sample. Apparently it is a successful method of reducing DNA fragmentation.
I have mixed emotions about this now. Part of me is somewhat happy/relieved that it may not just be ME who is the problem, but part of me doesn't want to upset DH by telling him that HE could be the problem aswell.
16-08-2012 14:27 #46
Disney - you and your DH are in this together. I don't think you have to worry about upsetting him by telling him the results. At least there is a plan of action that might improve things - that is something to give you hope for a better outcome next time!
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16-08-2012 14:32 #47
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Thanks Clem, and no, no AF yet. I just did the old trusty and bought a couple of Pregnosis at the chemist, and did one as soon as I got hope (they were on special for $9 so I didn't feel too guilty). Hopefully that will work. If it hasn't arrived by tomorrow morning I'll do the other one too. Unfortunately I'm living out of the suitcase of clothes I brought with me, and didn't pack any white pants or nice undies, so I can't try that trick. TMI, but I've also been getting myself off every night for the last three nights, not because I'm the slightest bit horny AT ALL, but because I'm hoping the uterinal contractions will do something.
Yes, I'm desperate.
Disney, I don't know anything about sperm fragmentation, but it sounds like there's some things you can attempt to combat it, so I guess that's something. GL with telling DH, I know how hard they take these things sometimes.
MrsJ, terrific beta, congrats hun. Please sprinkle us with some pregnancy magic!
Had a chat with DH this morning, and he made me feel a bit better. He basically said all we can do is just hope that this one works, but that everything that happens, happens for a reason, and however our baby-making journey pans out is what's meant to be for us. He also said that if we exhaust all possibilities with using his sperm, he may feel more accepting of using donor. But he did say that for him, the main point of procreation is passing on your genes to your kids (typical male!), and that with donor sperm he wouldn't be doing that. Whereas I look at it from a more maternal POV; I just want babies to love and nurture and watch them grow, I don't really care whose genetic material they have! Hopefully I can help him see things from my perspective. I mean, he used to have a step-daughter when he was with his ex, so I know he is capable of accepting and loving a child that isn't biologically his.
16-08-2012 14:34 #48
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Tiggers thanks for starting the new thread!!
I'm only put on progestrone support for a stim cycle- fresh transfer. Otherwise with FET ( natural or with a booster) I'm not on any progestrone support. My FS doesn't even test for it, he believes that the progestrone that is produced by the corpus luteum does not record accurately in a Bt. The only time he tests for it is to check when I'm ovulating I think?
MrsJ Official congratulations now!!! 🎉🍀 I agree with Disney, once you get your BT results from gp you could compare the doubling rate etc. Last pregnancy 😞 I got a BT from GP and it took 5 days to come back as the GP never put urgent on it, in the meantime I had my official one with the clinic, and that came back the same day. I then compared the results. I find it weird too that your clinic doesn't do standard BT, my clinic sends me BT slips via email and I just print off when needed.
I have often wondered if I have done something wrong in the past to be where we are today, all my jobs, are give back to the community jobs. My last one was a contracted case manager for DHS- so you can imagine the things I have seen and heard. Lots of K'iesha and heartbreaking stories.
When I left in January I had become quite close to a girl I case managed (over the two yrs i was there) who when she left my care fell pregnant at 16, she had the baby and he is now 1. DH and I invited her to live with us, to help her get on her feet, and not be on the constant merry go round of child protection. In February, night before we go on our cruise around Sth Pacific, she informs us she is pregnant again at 18- she is due in October. DH and I are more concerned on that she can't care for one, how will she care for two (haven't heard of contraception? Was uttered a few times!). We still agree on her moving in and she did. Fast forward to April when I did my last transfer, she was a COW!! Being a social worker I understand the trauma, rejection, attachment issues that these kids go through, but she treated us very poorly. She couldn't cope with my undivided attention. There was a big blow up at midnight one night when she wrote on Facebook some very negative things about me and sent me text messages all from being in a bedroom in my own house and announced I was pregnant on there. I was in my 2ww and my grandfather had just passed too. I absolutely lost it, it was the last straw. I asked her to leave, it got quite nasty and DH asked me to go to my brothers as we knew I was pregnant. DH said he has never seen me so angry and hurt, I threw things and didn't even realise till hrs later I had bruises all down my legs from where I kicked something. DH arranged for to leave that night but it took a number of hrs.
It was awful I opened my heart, my house and even my extended family included her in everything. I miss them terribly but I can't have that stress in my life, and as my brother said I left a job that was stressful to then invite it into my home- didn't make sense.
I keep having dreams about them at the moment, and I so want to go and see them but I can't for my own sanity. I was in the delivery room at the birth and both DH and I WERE his godparents (when she left she informed us we were no longer).
I also have a 40th birthday party to go to tomorrow night with some old school friends. Last time we were all together was when I was pregnant the first time, last july. I've have spoken to one of them regularly but I just don't want the looks or awkward conversations (all of them have had children, and one of them said last time when I said I was pregnant. They had always thought I would never have children, that keeps running through my head )I'm usually ok in social situations but I usually have DH or family with me to lean on- this time it will be just me.. I'm thinking I'm going to excuse myself, my throat is sore and I'm still headachy, and my knee still swells and aches when I'm on my feet too long and it's at a nightclub. Am I being silly??
I think I'm just in an emotional place and I don't want to put myself somewhere that could trigger it. Like the below happening..
Yesterday I was an emergency teacher for 3/4 and we had mass, I started to tear up in church at one point when there was a prayer said ( it hit me like a ton of bricks) and I looked to my right and there was an 8mth old approx. looking and smiling at me. It was so difficult trying to clear and eyes and get rid of that lump in my throat without the kids seeing...
Sorry girls.. Long post.. But these are all the things going through my head..keeping me awake..and I think the thought of starting all this again after 4 consecutive m/c is getting me edgy!!
I didn't have to work today, so I had a long sleep in and Clem I'm cd 8 today, first scan is tomorrow....
16-08-2012 14:35 #49
I do feel maybe 5% better about our next cycle lol, but I also don't know if it will be enough time to improve his swimmers? I def don't want to wait 3 months to do another cycle! I guess there is the alternative of frequent ejaculation which would work better if I didn't want to wait. I guess the decision isn't just up to me now though. If DH wants to wait to give his swimmers a better chance, then we will have to work something out.
DH hasn't been taking vitamins since our very first cycle because he was always told he had super sperm, so we thought there was no need for it. I have recently started him back on zinc, vitamin c and l-cartinine tablets again, but I will have to tell him to take menevit instead (or on top of)...is there a such thing as too much?
16-08-2012 14:46 #50
Sariele - have you tried a bath? The hot water is said to bring on AF, I think. As for the sperm - well, as you know, we are using donor sperm as we have no other option. But my DH is amazing about it. He didn't hesitate about it, as he really wants me to be able to experience pregnancy and motherhood & he just hopes for a mini me. We also both feel that it is not genes that makes a parent whatsoever. In fact, even last night he was patting my tummy and saying, "Helloooo ... it's your daddy!!" I had to remind him that there's really nothing in there because it didn't bl00dy work. But it was very sweet that he gets right past the fact that it's someone else's sperm. I don't think it will matter one bit, if we ever manage to actually have a bub.
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