I'm devastated that I gave in to your promise of plenty sleep and a content little baby! I'm devastated that I allowed myself to believe that someone without children could possibly know what it takes for a mother to listen to her child cry. I'm devastated that even as a health professional, I allowed myself to believe you when you have no credible research-based evidence to back up your methods.
I researched online before starting your routine and I succumbed to the stress caused by the availability of so much information and thought that the only way I would know if it worked, was to just try it.
So try it I did.
How could I be so stupid as to believe that every single baby can be programmed into a specific routine?!
Why did I think it was ok for my baby to cry (no, not 'protest', cry!) himself to sleep?
Why, if what your saying is so good, was I crying at the end of the day feeling like a terrible mother because I'd walked round my street several times trying to keep my very tired and upset little boy awake.
I watched the tears ****** down his face as if to beg me just to let him sleep.
How can he trust me when he is crying and I'm trying to reassure him but avoiding eye contact with him?
Everyone knows a liar avoids eye contact, even babies.
I believe that in sacrificing so much, it's possible to get babies into your routine; there's certainly many fans of your methods praising you here, there and everywhere....
However, I'm genuinely concerned that those fans will be the future's evidence of why vulnerable new mothers should not follow your rules.
You haven't been around long enough for people to see the long term effect of your methods.
In the meantime, I've set fire to your book.
I cuddle my precious little boy when he needs cuddled. He's not going to need cuddled to sleep forever. He won't be waking up for night feeds forever. And i can rest as peacefully as i need to knowing that if he wakes, its because he needs something, and as his mother, the person who decided to bring him into the world, it's my responsibility to make sure his needs are met.
The human body is a wonderful thing... why was I naive enough to think that his little body won't one day work out what 'routine' is best for him?
I hope women read this and know what they are risking by starting Tizzie Hall's routines. And i hope you have a good lawyer in 15 years time when the damage becomes apparent.
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13-08-2012 12:43 #1Member
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13-08-2012 12:48 #2
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I'm most definately not a fan of this woman or her methods, and stories like yours is why. I hope you and your little one are ok now.
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13-08-2012 12:57 #3Senior Member
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Take some peace in the fact that you have seen the dark side and turned away from it. Big hugs to you and your bubba.
13-08-2012 13:01 #4
I really feel for you. Ive been in this exact position. I shamefully admit that i was a lost first time mother that got given this book and thought it would give me what was promised. DS is 2 and still wakes 1-3 times a night and will never fall asleep on me because he was 'put in his place of sleep'.
I'd give anything to take that time back.
Lots of hugs
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I don't know of Tizzie Hall, except some things that I have read on here. But I just wanted to give you a and say I *love* your bubba's name!
13-08-2012 13:09 #6
I'm sorry you had to go through this experience but please see rainbows in the fact you saw the light.
Im a mother of 3 soon to be 4 who lives my the mantra that it is not forever. Babies who need their mummies turn into people who don't need their mummies as much.
I hope other mums can read your letter and burn her books as well. Happy cuddling your precious baby.
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13-08-2012 13:15 #7
Thats heartbreaking and so reminds me of my experience when i was a first time sleep deprived mumma, this book and her routines nearly sent me into the psych ward i reckon, it was that distressing to me to hear my son cry and the routines only just exaserbated the whole issues. I am saddened to hear of other mothers following such advice with good intentions and it goes so bad. I felt like i had broken my childs spirit by following her routines, when i started listening to my baby our relationship improved dramatically, along with some much needed sleep for us both.
13-08-2012 13:21 #8
I think I read 2 chapters of the book and decided it wasn't for me. No way was I going to allow my DD to cry like suggested.
13-08-2012 13:33 #9
Good on you! I'd burn every single copy of her book if I had the money!
She does actually have children though. 2 little boys. I feel so sorry for her children.
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13-08-2012 13:41 #10Member
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wow, i didnt expect to get so many replies so quickly!
thank u all for ur kind words
i knew she recently had a baby but thought that was her first, did she have kids when she wrote that book?
ive never joined a forum before but it feels nice to know there are others in the same boat as me!
and Beebs, thank u for the compliment on his name, we are having lots of trouble with people knowing how to pronounce it!! (pronounced Roory/Rury)!!!
Back in Scotland people are fine with it! Never mind, at least he's one of only a few of the same name out there!!
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