Grumpysmurf - I read over your post and got tears in my eyes. You sound like you have, and are doing an amazing job well said!!!!
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12-08-2012 20:30 #21
12-08-2012 20:33 #22
Well I take full responsibility for the situation I am in.
Although neither father is "deadbeat" both love their kids and take good care of them they made crap partners. And I should have never gone there.
With one I was young and naive and with the other I was ummmm insane I think is the word. Just so crazy inlove I didn't see the situation for what it was and I take full responsibility for that.
I actually don't blame either one of them for anything that happened.
But then I was never in an abusive relationship.
I was just stupid plain and simple.
Being abused by a man is never a woman's fault. Ever!
Victim blaming is not cool.
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12-08-2012 20:36 #23
I am SO confused as to how this can even be in question??
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12-08-2012 20:44 #24
Yep well said Benji, why oh why are women so judgement to each other. I have also procreated with an idiottttt but in weighting up the decision to have her the deciding factor was her right to life regardless of her dodgy parentage. I take pride in my personal responsibly to her everyday. Im a good and responsible mother also. It's hard slog raising kids on your own, I couldn't be prouder of my child, be damned if I'm going to slink around in a hair shirt and be made to feel negative about it.
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12-08-2012 20:56 #26
I still just can't fathom how a single parent with a drop kick F/MOB hasn't taken responsibility????? The responsibility that it takes In raising a child and raising a child on your own at that sure as sh!t outweighs the "responsibility" you take when "choosing" partners.
12-08-2012 21:00 #27
Um... I really don't get the "well you should have chosen a better father for your child" argument. In most cases (when he doesn't have other kids) she hasn't had any opportunity to see what kind of father he is BEFORE he becomes a father, so how on earth would she know until he does?
It's a bit like saying "well you shouldn't have chosen to have kids with someone who was going to die in an accident three years later" or something like that..
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12-08-2012 21:11 #30
I constantly feel guilty about having a baby with a loser.
If I had a time machine, I would honestly change things.
I would scream at 22yr old me to run far far away from someone I KNEW I wasn't meant to be with. I was so desperate for "something" that I stayed with him.
It makes life so so hard.
I exhausted from it at the moment.
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