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    Default Where can I find a partner who understands what its like to be infertile?

    I am a 25 year old male, in Brisbane QLD.
    I am completely infertile... 0 sperm (due to a medical condition)...

    My wife of 4 years has left me now, because she says she will never be happy with just using the option of donor's or adoption.
    She wants to find a partner that can give children to her, to share children that look like both of them. She says she will never feel happy, with anything else...

    Why she waited 4 years after telling me that my infertility did not matter, to decide it was a deal breaker, is beyond me, but I don't want to mourn a lost cause. I want to look into my future...


    I would really like to find a woman out there, that knows what its like, to have these problems, and a woman that is looking for the same thing as me... A loving partner, that loves me for who I am, regardless of my problem conceiving.
    A partner that is willing to go through that difficulty with me.

    My problem is, I have no idea where to start looking, to find such a woman...
    Does anyone have suggestions?
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    Oh that's heartbreaking that your wife would leave because of that if everything else was good.

    I'm not sure what the answer to your question is though. I guess you'll just eventually meet the right woman. She might just be out there ready to travel that road of adoption or using a donor with you. Or maybe you'll end up with a single mummy who no longer has a desire for additional children.

    Keep your chin up mate. When you find her - she'll be a special one for sure

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    I have thought about that too.
    I would love to meet a woman who has children already.
    I would still however probably want to try and have maybe one more with them as a couple, so I can experience it.

    But once again... I have no idea where to look...

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    That sounds horrible for you!

    I can't speak for others but im single and pregnant now because my ex wants nothing to do with me or our baby girl.

    I couldn't care less about what a man could do in relation to being fertile or not, or whether he's wealthy or not, or whether he's hot or not. All I want from here on in for myself and my daughter is a man who cares about us, loves us and just does everything in his power to show us those things everyday.

    I have always wanted to adopt just because I would like to do something for a child born in the wrong country.

    Love isn't about who you're loved by, it is what that person does to prove their love to you.

    Love in its purest form!

    .... Wow I sound tacky!! Haha, pregnancy hormones!

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    Ha! I feel exactly the same way, 'n' I don't think its tacky at all.

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    wow! im so sorry to hear what you have said op. as the other pp's say, at the right time, the right woman will come along, weather she is in the same boat as you or has children already. please don't think you'll be single forever. i'd rather a caring warm , funny, friendly, honest partner , one that treats me right even if he can't have kids, any day over a prick who can and treats me like im a nobody and has no time for me or quality time together.

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    Huggles for you! Sorry you are going thro this. I'm sure you will find the right woman for you xxx

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    Just wanted to say that there are lots of women on here that are dealing with infertility because our partners are infertile. None of us are planning on leaving them anytime soon (well that i know of!).

    I found out that my fiancé is infertile and will never be able to father children naturally. Were doing IVF as adoption is almost impossible in Australia now, and has a waiting of up to 8-10 years (we've been told). It is a very difficult thing to go through as a couple, but if your relationship is strong, then you will make it through. I've never once thought about leaving my fiancé, because it's not his fault and we're willing to work through it together.

    As awful as it is for you with your wife leaving you, it is very hard for some women to give up their chance to have a child.

    You will meet someone who loves you, and you'll work out how to have kids together Maybe just try to focus on finding someone you enjoy spending time with and if it gets serious, you can sort out the fertility stuff together.

    There are plenty of women doing IVF because of Male Factor Infertility, so there is hope!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gold View Post
    *sympathies*

    Are you only looking for a woman who is infertile? There are plenty of single women who already have children who could make a great partner, if you're open to the idea of being a step parent.

    What ever you decide, I wish you all the best.
    I agree with this.. My dp has no children of his own, and I have 2 from a previous relationship. He told me from the start that he doesn't want children of his own, and I am ok with that as I feel happy with the 2 children I have already, I feel my family is now complete.
    Sorry for what you're going through, I hope you find happiness with someone special one day


 

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