So I had a missed miscarriage earlier this year. At the time the doctors said bub had passed 10 days prior in the 13th week.
On this date they say baby passed, I was kicked and elbowed at once really hard in the stomach. It was an accident, by a 6 year old. It actually really hurt and had me doubled over but the pain passed quickly and there was no cramping or anything.... I didn't think twice at the time.
When I had the mmc, everything happened so fast and it was only after the d&c that I remembered the incident. Dh and I talked about it once but then haven't mentioned it.
Ds is always climbing on me, kicking me, jabbing me as he just doesn't sit still and I'm his favorite toy. We are ttc again and I am freaking out what if it happens again? We don't know for sure that's why we lost bubs, and I don't blame master 6 or anything.. I'm actually shocked I'm so worried about this. I don't know how to stop ds without not letting him in touch me and I'm not going to do that of course... He's only 1!
Has anyone had a miscarriage due to trauma? Am I crazy to think that may have been the cause? I just can't seem to forget about it now!!!
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05-08-2012 17:44 #1
Miscarriage due to trauma?
05-08-2012 17:56 #2
Firstly I am very sorry for u loss. hugs.
I can't offer u any advice on the trauma issue but my son is 1 next month and he kicks me in the stomach and jumps up and down on me. I try and stop him hitting my tummy too hard but it can be hard especially when changing his nappy. Sometimes it's painful when he kicks me but I am now 22weeks with DS2 and it hasn't done any damage yet. touch wood.
Good luck I hope u get ur sticky healthy pregnancy soon. Unfortunately after a miscarriage I'm not sure u ever stop worrying about absolutely everything.
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06-08-2012 10:56 #3
Anyone else? I'm so anxious
06-08-2012 11:14 #4
Big hugs. I can't imagine your pain.
I've never had a miscarriage but I think every pregnant woman has been injured in the belly region and most don't have any issues. My niece and nephew hurt my belly numerous times and I didn't have any issues. I think if it was related there would be a lot more miscarriages with second children. This isn't based on any facts and I have no medical training. I just don't know anyone who hasn't been hurt while pregnant, either due to falls or other kids.
06-08-2012 11:25 #5
I have had a miscarriage of twins at 14 weeks due to domestic violence.
Since then I now have DS 15 months, and he climbs on me all the time, dive bombs me, kicks me (accidentally) and I am now 17 weeks pregnant with #2.
Haven't had any issues yet
When he gets a little boisterous I put my sad face on and explain that it hurts mummy and it's not nice to do those things, he sort of gets it
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06-08-2012 11:54 #6
sorry for your loss earlier this year.
Bubs before 12 weeks of age are really very tiny and actually IN your pelvis, so protected by your pelvic bones and surrounded by plenty of fluid to provide cushioning in the event of a bump.
I had a car accident at 26 weeks gestation with my ds. I was driving and ran head onto a car that stopped in front of my car. I slammed on the brakes and hit at less than 20kmh & the airbag didn't go off, but it was still quite a significant accident when you're pregnant. My ds was fine (I went in for monitoring & a check up) and I didn't have bleeding or anything and went on to have him at full term.
I hope your bub is very sticky
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06-08-2012 11:59 #7
Hi im so sorry to read of you loss. I cant imagine the emotional pain it would bring as i havent experienced it.
I just wanted to offer some sort of reassurance regarding the trauma incident that you might think caused the m/c...
I have a 18mth old and a border collie who constantly jumps up on me no matter how much i try to protect my stomach with my arms they always somehow manage to get a punch in. Nappy changs are especially bad as dd kicks right at stomach level.
I asked my midwife if the dog or my dd could do any serious damage and she said it's highly unlikley as the baby is very well cusioned and protected in the womb for these reasons. Otherwise i guess pregnanct women would all be wearing belly helmets if that was the case.
It's actually more important that you teach your little kids not to hurt mummy or anyone in that way, especially if there is a tiny baby in there.
Ive learnt to turn my back on my dog when she greats me.
You might want to do a bit of googling or ask your doctors some questions to get some more answers to put your mind at ease, bub's could have had something else happen internally the same day as the punch you got from that child.
Again, im sorry for your loss and all the best for ttc.
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