DD can do a lot of that kind of thing (although she is only 2, so still getting there with some things), BUT I have to fight my natural instincts all the time as it doesn't come naturally to me to let her do risky stuff.
An example is that there is a high horizontal ladder at the park, and she walks across it. It's higher than my head, and she's confident in going over it. She's slipped a few times, but always caught herself by holding on to the rope handles that go across. Her legs can't reach the rungs as the stride is too long for her, but she walks on the sides of the ladder. I stand underneath in a "ready to catch you, but acting very cool with it like I'm not there to catch you" way.
I think it's important to let her do those things and build her confidence, but I find it hard to do.
Each to their own, but for those who admit to being a bit more protective, I would very politely say that they may want to think about not saying to their kids (when they're older) anything like "Well it was because you were so klutzy" - or anything along those lines.
I'm sure you probably wouldn't, but I say that because I was very overprotected as a child, and my mum always said (and still does) "Well, that's because you had no common sense/ would have been the one to hurt yourself/ would have got lost/ would have fallen off, etc."
When I met DH I had no confidence in my ability to do any kind of physical task, and would always put myself down with things like that. It took DH to point out that I actually wasn't completely hopeless at everything, and that it was probably a result of my parents saying that all the time (that I thought I was).
Anyway, a side note, and not trying to tell anyone what to do. I just saw a few comments like 'Well MY DS/ DD would definitely hurt themselves" and it kind of brought it all back to me!
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06-08-2012 06:30 #51Senior Member
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06-08-2012 06:39 #52
DD is only 3 this month so a lot of that OP doesn't apply.
I let her play with sticks, not that she really does, but ever since reading stick man, she likes playing with sticks
She is also allowed to jump in muddy puddles as long as she has her gumboots on.
I'm a massive helicopter parents when out or at a play centre but when it's just us I let her be "free".
06-08-2012 07:27 #53
Yeah, I'm a big helicopter if we are out and about too as far as other people and cars, etc go. They are pretty free to be physical at home.
06-08-2012 07:48 #54
I grew up on a farm and by 10 (the age of the kids in the stick thread) we were doing things with a lot more risk then playing with a stick. When my brother was 10 and I was 8 we used to tow each other behind a quad bike (not a mini one) riding giveway sign, was always a challenge to see how much we could swing the other one out the back.
My kids are 7, 5 and 4 and they climb trees, play with sticks, ride motorbikes, climb to the top of the hay bale stack, play on the back of the truck, jump on a trampoline without an enclosure, ride their bikes into the creek. And have a lot of fun doing it!
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