I think that remembering who you are also involves acting who you are. Don't feel guilty in leaving bubs at home with your DH to go out for lunch or dinner with your girl friends, or going out on date night wiith DH, reading a book that has absolutely nothing to do with how to settle an over tired baby etc.
Take some time out from plnning for bub and go out with your DH and do some of your old stuff, even if it is something that seems really anti baby like go out dancing, or see a live band, if that's your thing.
Are you planning on keeping up your herb business once bubs is here? I know that that is work, but it will help you to remember that there is more to you than being a portable milk station etc.
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I'm still me, and if I don't know who I am, I'm setting the kids a poor example. DD will grow thinking a mothers sole duty is being a martyr. DS will grow expects his wife to be a martyr.
I think the interesting thing, is that men *usually* keep doing most of the stuff they did before having a family. They still go for drinks, play golf, ride their motor bikes, and mums are criticized on here if they don't want their partners doing that as "men have a right to have interests outside the house, stop cramping his style". Yet as mums, we feel we almost have to ask permission for a break, both from ourselves and others.
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Hmm I don't know I don't feel like I am anybody else but a mum it's all I've ever wanted to be I do struggle with what I will do once my kids are grown up enough not to need me on a day-day basis hubby doesn't want me to work which is fine as I have no desire to go back into the workforce I think I will be happy as an aba councillor or lactation consultant I'm planning on doing surrogacy once we are done with our own children and they are all at school f.t.
At the moment I just do my little me things, read, sing along to music (while I clean usually) hang with friends.. I lead a pretty basic boring life and I'm happy with that
Sorry I guess what I'm trying to say is I don't miss doing anything I use to do (except maybe the odd night out, not clubbing but just socializing).
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05-08-2012 17:17 #20
yeh thermy im not one to party or socialise excessively anyway - I am a very family/home body person so I don't imagine I am about to start a life that is polar oppsoite.
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