If the FOB who is paying you child support isn't paying as much as you could get out of them, would you push for me?
Eg my daughter is entitled to more due to her high needs, but i've not asked csa to claim that yet.
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04-08-2012 14:58 #1
Would you take him for all he's worth?
04-08-2012 15:07 #2
Depends if the father contributed in other ways and had a meaningful relationship with the child.
DD's Dad doesn't pay a cent to me. But he has DD every second weekend, picks her up from school if I can't get there, has her when I have to go away for work, helps me out when I'm stuck, comes to parent teacher interviews, etc etc. So I'm happy for his contribution to be his effort rather than his money.
If he was off enjoying his life without any thought to DD then yeah, I'd be insisting on the full amount of child support.
04-08-2012 15:11 #3-
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For me it would depend on how well we got along, and how active his role was in raising the child. If he is mostly absent and little help then yes I would ask for more money.
04-08-2012 15:13 #4
I'm not a single parent, but yeah I would. Your daughter is entitled to that extra help.
If he helps out in other ways and you have a good relationship, then maybe go about it that way, discuss it and come to an agreement.
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04-08-2012 15:17 #5
I said yes, but that's assuming he's a non-present father that doesn't support her in any other way.
I also say this knowing full well that I could have applied for more from XH but I chose not too (wasn't worth the fall out for me- and plus, he's so useless with his money he needs every cent)
04-08-2012 15:24 #6
In your case hun, yes I would.
04-08-2012 15:29 #7Senior Member
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depends totally on circumstance.
Ex and I have a private arrangement...if amounts were to change, i would discuss it with him...but he is normally a reasonable human being with his child's best interest at heart...and not all ex's are like that.
04-08-2012 16:19 #8
I think it depends on individual circumstances. I did push based in special needs, but only because I need to remain on centrelink until I finish my degree and couldn't provide properly for DS without it. If I could have done it without then I would have just left it.
04-08-2012 16:49 #9
I voted other, because I disagree with the end of the no statement.
I can, will and do provide a very comfortable life for DS without FOB contribution. The fact of the matter is that he pays nothing towards DS. He would rather pay for a child that is not biologically his than pay for CS towards his first born. We are on a NIL assessment, I earn more than him working casually and on CL , I have majority care and his partner is more than capable of taking care of his other children so there is no reason for such a discrepancy for a fully qualified worker. There is the capacity there to work and earn more if he chose to. CSA among others recommend a COA through CSA. I cant be arsed fighting it. It means nothing to me when I am quite capable of paying for absolutely everything (and I mean everything!). I also have family support should times fall rough, though I have an emergency plan/funds in place, I always have. For a so called "gold digger"... Ive never done much digging and I sure as eggs could've chosen someone much better to be digging from if that was the case !!
Honestly while ever I can afford to take care of DS on my own then I see no point in revealing my entire life on paper to go through a COA process. Its invasive, impersonal, there is no privacy and no assistance to prevent backlash, so for me its not worth it to fight it. I can provide for DS and DS knows he only need ask and providing it is reasonable he will get his needs and wants met.
Only you can weigh up the pros and cons for your situation LOP. I hope it works out for you.
05-08-2012 09:43 #10
mmm good thoughts to consider. Im not sure i ever will push for the extra $$.
DD has disabilities of sorts and I CAN apply for special needs consideration.
At the moment FOB does pay a substantial amount, but thats because he earns a small fortune and that effects my FTB etc. Now that im repartnered and living with my DP, our centrelink has gone down to almost nothing and DP is supporting us on a very modest wage (a quarter of what FOB earns).
FOB has DD 1/2 of each school holidays and barely calls her in the mean time
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