As others have said i would be really careful about moving interstate without the ex's permission. He has the power to drag you right back to QLD.
I personally have done what you want to. My ex has massive anger issues and is abusive. I left him in QLD and moved to NSW. Luckily for me he has not pursued anything in terms of family law. He doesn't really have the resources to do so though.
Would your ex be in a position to afford legal representation or be entitled to legal aid? If not you might be alright.
Would you be able to convince him to move to NSW and then leave him?
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15-11-2012 18:56 #11
15-11-2012 19:23 #12
Be careful about moving interstate. If he does go through the family courts they may order then children to move back within a certain distance of him.
If you have safety issues document, call the police, talk to DOCS. Otherwise the court may look on it as sour grapes with no documented evidence.
Get legal advice before you go interstate so you are fully aware of your options. I moved interstate and my children had to go back. So it DOES happen.
15-11-2012 20:53 #13
I'd be very careful about moving interstate. It might not look good for you if it ever gets down to custody disagreements, and you could be forced to return anyway.
I think you've done a FABULOUS thing by realising that by staying, your daughters will learn to accept that behaviour as normal. I'm really really happy you've acknowledged that it's better to leave than to allow that to happen (and IMO, it's very likely it would if you remained with him). So definitely supportive of that move!
As for where to go, I would definitely seek legal advice before making any big decisions.
15-11-2012 20:58 #14
Good on you for making that decision for your girls. I don't have any advice to give but what the other ladies are saying sounds really good. I wish you the best. Hopefully everything works out for you :-)
15-11-2012 21:20 #15
Re: Leaving husband
good on you for making the right decision! Your kids will love u for it.
I wish my mother had if dine that for us when we were younger, its now 14 Years later and things are at their worst and we all haf to move away to escape it.
I am happy for you for having the courage. :-) you will be OK :thumbup:
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16-11-2012 08:23 #16Member
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Re: Leaving husband
Sorry mustn't have made sense lol. We are all moving interstate and then once we have moved and he goes back to work we are leaving so then I'm already in the state I want to be and he can't force me back to qld as we aren't here anymore. Does that make sense lol
We will live in NSW and he works in qld FIFO so he will just live at camp I presume and ill live with my mum.
It's taken a while for me to get here but I'm finally in the right head space for leaving and knowing its for the best. I would leave now but need to be in the right state.first so he can't force me.back. I'm just dreading the whole children side of things now as want them to be safe
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16-11-2012 08:33 #17
Just a quick mention - you cannot just leave and go back to the UK unless you leave your children here. If they are born in Australia you are stuck here unless he gives you permission to leave.
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16-11-2012 09:59 #19
I don't think she mentioned that she was leaving for the UK? I can't find it if she has.
Good luck with this OP, it would be very stressful
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