So I need some advice.
I have 2 kids 2.5 and 11wk old.
Father and I are in high conflict and separated.
He just started having access visits this week.
First visit went well, but he was late!!
Today, when I picked up the kids he was on drugs, smoking marijuana.
He has a history of using speed, coke, pot, acid and more.....
I DO NOT want my children exposed to that.
I want to tell him that he is not allowed to have access to them if he is on drugs.
But I am scared of the legal implications.
I already have a lawyer on board, as the father has refused to sign the birth certificate for the 11wk old and refuses to pay child support.
He is supposed to pay child support for our 2.5yo but he never does.
I just don't want my kids around him while he is high.
But I don't want to be the one who denies him access to his kids.
Not that he wants it..
He only wants to see our 2.5yo and not the baby.
HELP...any suggestions please.....
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03-08-2012 23:21 #1Junior Member
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dad on drugs during access visit
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04-08-2012 13:14 #3Senior Member
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Life can be cruel and yes you are far better off avoiding this ex at all costs. Tape as many incidents as you are able to always have a record. Try to investigate as many avenues in your local area/community. Sorry just want to say have faith things will work out for you in the end. Big hugs.
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04-08-2012 14:49 #4
What has the lawyer said about the drugs?
I would suggest not sending the kids back until you've got orders in place expressing that under no circumstance shall FOB be under the influence of any substance while the kids are in his care. Push for drug tests if need be. You would never forgive your self if something were to happen while he has them, if you could have stopped it
04-08-2012 18:36 #5
You could try calling the child protection unit at your local police station and seeing what they suggest? If you are seeing a lawyer definitely run it by the lawyer too. Maybe you need to insist he see the children at a contact centre until he can clean up his act. Your first priority is to protect the children's welfare even though it's important for them to have a relationship with the father..
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