I need some help and advice from those who have refused an induction or gone against hospital advice. I have ready many great posts with info previously, especially from people like missymack that have really helped me but im am feeling very confused.
I just got home from what was probably one of the most traumatic hospital appointments of my life. I am 40+5 today, my first baby and first pregnancy.
The Dr/OB did not take kindly to my insistance of not being induced. She wanted to book me in tomorrow! She basically said that if i didnt agree to be induced at 40+10 (starting evening of 40+9) then i would be putting the baby in so much risk that it could/would die (and that would be my fault for being so selfish to want a naural labour/birth). The hospital wont agree to any form of monitoring past 40+10.
Now i have had a text book pregnancy up until this point. My BP is fine, baby is fine - good strong heart beat and movement, head is only 2/5 above brim, cervix is still shut and posterior, medium soft. They have booked me in for induction on Tuesday night, after treating me and my partner like we dont care about our baby or our babies health. Asked me if I was ok with the risk that I could take home a dead baby. I cried the whole way home.
Needless to say I am an absolute wreck I have called my GP (who has monitored me the whole pregnancy as I am a GP shared care patient) she is going to give me a check up on Monday morning to see how i am progressing. She cant give me a stech and sweep though, she can only check my cervix to see what its doing and do my normal checks.
I cant believe it has gotten to this point. I dont know what to do! My DP is happy to follow my lead and is super supportive. He really pushed our point with the hospital and told them we will do what we want not what they want. He was furious by the end of the appointment and then had to console me.
Im feeling absolutely lost...... I thought this was supposed to be one of the happiest and exciting times of my life. Instead i am crying, scared and stressed. Im dreading tuesday.
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03-08-2012 12:46 #1
Forced into induction @ 40+9
03-08-2012 12:58 #2
They can't force you to do anything.
Is this a public hospital?
I refused induction and the doctor just kept threatening me with everything under the sun. The midwife ended up telling me it's just scare tactics.
Is there a midwife there you can speak to or a head of department?
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03-08-2012 13:06 #3
I am so sorry you are going through this
I'll be interested in replies as I am also on my first pregnancy and my hospitals policy is 40 plus 10 as well for induction.
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03-08-2012 13:13 #4
There is a shared care midwife i could talk to at the hospital although they all seem to tow the same line at that particular hospital. I have considered turning up to one of the other public maternity hospitals here to demand a strech and sweep on Monday morning. Or just going past inducement date and then going to one of the other hospitals when it naturally happens.
03-08-2012 13:16 #5
Sorry I am not being insensitive but I am just curious as to why one would protest being induced at the pregnancy stage you are at?
03-08-2012 13:23 #6
So they won't give you a stretch and sweep but will induce you instead?
Can you ask for one (or demand)?
Public hospitals will not refuse you care when in labour.
You can just not show up and then go once you are in labour. (to the hospital you are booked into)
Problem with going to a different hospital is that more then likely they will drill you about why you went there etc.. It might be a huge fuss.
I told my doctor if he books me in for induction I'm not showing up. Maybe say the same to yours.
Its hard I know I had to be so strong otherwise they would have done what they liked with me.
How long over do you want to go? Say it's 15 days for example get your husband to firmly state that to them and that you understand the risks .. Blah blah blah but will not be going ahead with induction.
As for not monitoring you after 10 days pretty sure that's illegal to refuse you care.
03-08-2012 13:23 #7
Plus you have to labour on their (hospy) time vs your own body.
I've had an induced labour and a spontaneous one. Hands down the induced labour was horrible and emotionally wrenching.
03-08-2012 13:24 #8
Why dont you just go against their advice but realise there may be consequences to deal with if something goes wrong, or why dont you go and see the Dr again and tell them your fears/concerns and come up with a plan of attack together? You are almost 42 weeks there are reasons you shouldnt be let go too far over edd. Best of luck.
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03-08-2012 13:27 #9
Being 5 days or 9 days over is not very much.
Induction is not natural and forces the body to do something is it not ready to do potentially causing many other problems.
03-08-2012 13:31 #10
I really didn't want to be induced either and pushed my hospital (public) back to 40+13 after they wanted to induce me at 40+9
Saying that you're going to take home a dead baby is well out of order though!!! I would def be complaining to a higher authority!!!
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