Hi. I'm currently 9 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby and my partners 1st. I've had a previous twin pregnancy and they are now 4.
My problem is with his mother- I've met the woman 3 times and to be honest she scares the crap outta me not to mention the stories he has told me about his childhood. She wants to go shopping and do movies all the bonding- I don't do any of that, it's not really my type of thing. The first time I saw her after she found out about the baby she had come over almost demanding we have to have traditional family names included in the baby's name, and that she would go out and buy pretty much everything for the baby. Maybe I'm just a control freak but I love the shopping for a baby, going out with my partner and picking out cots and prams and bottles ect. Anyway I get a phone call today saying that she had gone out and laybyed a $600 pram for $99. This seriously ****ed me off- would you not think to check first if it's suitable for the mum and baby?? Am I just being selfish? Do I need to relax a little?
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31-07-2012 14:25 #1Member
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31-07-2012 16:26 #2Senior Member
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a $600 pram for $99?! sounds a bit weird to me, i have never ever heard of a $600 pram being reduced to $99. it doesn't sound like a good one to me then . lol. how about u suggest either :
A)going with her, and picking what YOU want..
B) just tell her ''oh no, i have already layby'd /bought a pram''''... and the rest of the stuff. lol. hint that you have done it already.
31-07-2012 16:29 #3
I wouldn't care if the pram was free or $1000, I would want to check I liked it first.
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31-07-2012 16:34 #4Senior Member
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she sounds excited and like someone who wants to be involved...i would find a few ways to involve her.
My MIL drives me batty, but i respect that she wants to be involved and try and give her things to do/buy (when she wants to).
I even go and meet her for coffee occasionally...not because i really want to,but because she has made a real effort to clean up her life and even though she drives me bonkers, she is DD's grandma.
31-07-2012 16:38 #5
I'd take what ever they wanted to buy me
I can understand where you're coming from, but if it sucks you can go buy another and leave one at their house for babysitting.
Everything my DD got was hand me downs even though I can afford to buy new. I just like free stuff
31-07-2012 16:39 #6
I agree with PP and she may want to be involved which is great but it needs to be on your terms.
You need to set some boundaries with her. Doing it now will save dramas later on. You can be nice about it but I think you need to have your partner on board with this too.
31-07-2012 16:45 #7
I'd think of something specific you'd like her to do or buy and let her exactly what it is.
As for the pram I sure as hell wouldn't want one I hadn't picked no matter how much it cost.
She sounds like she is really excited and this is her way of showing it. But geez at 9 weeks I had no idea what I wanted to buy yet.
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