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30-07-2012 18:57 #61
30-07-2012 19:01 #62Senior Member
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I guess I don't really come across it that much? I am guilty of the "but you only have one child" call. It isn't like a Poor me type thing. It is more a, look - you are lovely, but you just don't understand what I mean.
I think if someone needs or wants sympathy - what is so wrong with giving them a little compassion? What is all this rubbish about "playing the sympathy card" etc. Some people have just had a tough time. Why make it worse by *****ing about them for being upset about it?
30-07-2012 19:04 #63Senior Member
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If I try to talk about my problems with some friends I get "but you don't have ................. like I do". This is what the OP is about.
The "oh pff your problems don't matter, I have it heaps worse than you do!" is incredibly dismissive.
30-07-2012 19:04 #64
Oh, and the "my baby cries the worst at bed time" or "my baby wakes the most at night" is particularly funny from well rested, fresh looking mums.
30-07-2012 19:04 #65
I have ti the worst..I am allergic to tomatoes..they are in everything. We went to dreamworld on Saturday and there was only fried food,which I can't eat, because it gives me the runs, because I have no gallbladder (oh, the inhumanity)..and I roamed the cafes, found a chicken caesar warp, queued for it, and the woman in front of me bought it...I went outside and cried, and then paid $12 for 2 sushi rolls. Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah
I am sorry, but my life sucks so much more than anything anyone else has gone through.
30-07-2012 19:04 #66
I was going to go to the next town to buy popcorn, but then I remembered I can't drive, because the lightening storm after the flood/fire/earthquake hit a tree in my front yard, which fell through my living room window and fell on my leg, breaking it.
So I called a taxi to take me there, but because I'd lost my house in the insurance fraud following the flood/fire/earthquake/tree, I had no money, and couldn't pay the taxi driver.
Then a rat bit me.
Then someone hacked my Facebook. And Target cancelled my layby. And my shoes need replacing.
Be grateful for your popcorn.
Am I the most woeful yet?!
30-07-2012 19:06 #67Senior Member
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30-07-2012 19:07 #68
As I have said, there is a difference in being upset and wanting comfort/support....and ALWAYS dismissing the other persons story and telling them how you have it worse.
Look, I think one of the biggest problems in society now days is that everybody has a story to tell but nobody wants to listen.....its probably why shrinks are in such high demand. People need people....people want people....people want to share and to know they are not alone. I fully understand the need for compassion for others and the need to truly listen to people when they need it........................but like I said, there is a difference and the people i am talking about are the ones I described who are always one-upping on how terrible they have it.
30-07-2012 19:09 #69
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