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    Default Dad not bonding with new baby

    Hi guys
    This is my first time posting so forgive me if I don't know all the lingo. Our first little one is 10 weeks old and my husband still doesnt feel much towards her - he is tired and sees it as just another job to do (2am feed). He is s very loving affectionate guy but as he says "never been good with babies". I wondered if from a guys perspective this is normal and I shouldn't worry - he will come round. He does evening settling and bath time but mostly sees her crying, taking a bottle or sleeping so doesn't get any smiles. She's an sensitive baby so we can't over stimulate her by playing with her or she cracks it. I know he will cope so much better when his feelings of love come through and I want to help him. What should I do? Be patient?

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    Some dads bond with their children straight away, others take a bit of time. I melted the first time I held DD, the same for DS1 & DS2. It wasn't all smiles, I can remember bottle feeding DS1 whilst rocking DS2 to keep him quiet, as my wife was sleeping for the first time in ages. It was 3am, so I was watching the US tv ads. (the bottles were breast milk)

    I wasn't good with babies till I had my own to care for. Be patient. He will be rewarded with a smile sooner or later and it will probably light him up inside.

    10 weeks is still very little. Lots of time to bond.

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    Thanks this weekend I left them together on the couch for a bit and when I came back I could see she was started to cast her little spell on him. Slowly slowly


 

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