I actually didnt see the section it came from as im on my phone and it popped up in the new posts part so i apologise for intruding.
I will say tho, i do personally find it difficult to relate to getting upset over what people who dont know me, and i dont know them say about something i do (especially when its not directed personally at me) Maybe i have developed a thick hide from having special needs children? But i learnt a long time ago to have a "and who the heck are you?" type of attitude when anyone says anything?
What im trying to get at, and this is especially for you Benji because i see you get upset by the judgment of being a working mother all.the.time. Is... You are a wonderful mother, your child is happy and healthy and loved Dont ever feel down on yourself for providing for your child, Feel proud. There is NO WAY i could do what you do, regardless of the difference in the number of how many children we have. You know all that really matters at the end of the day is you, your child, and your partner... If all three of you are happy and content, then everyone else's opinion mean NOTHING.
Im gonna bow out now. But really, every working parent should read my last paragraph, and even non working parents, change a few words and it applies to you too. Got Happy, loved children? you're winning!
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14-08-2012 10:27 #31
14-08-2012 10:34 #32Senior Member
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I only get upset here because this is one of the very few places for support for mothers (all mothers) and it's so anti-working mum. We can't even have a discussion in our own section without negativity. I don't have a problem with anything you've said DiamondEyes, just the constant and I mean constant negativity here about working mums and us not raising our own children and how evil child care is.
The article was about *several* studies conducted and, of course, there must be a flaw with them
I do agree that some children aren't well off in child care, mine was one of them. I had to wait until he was 3. But that doesn't make the studies flawed
Anyway, I really think I've had enough of this place. If mothers can't even discuss the fact that child care isn't harmful for most children then I'm out. This place isn't supportive, it's a hole.
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14-08-2012 10:39 #33
Ill delete all my contributions, people who quoted me, can u edit me out please?
14-08-2012 10:45 #34-
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Kids couldn't care less about going to child-care
And no worries I wasn't offended by the suggestion that it's not good for some kids, you weren't rude.
I like well rounded discussions with bits and pieces from both sides, thats how you learn. But I also see that some need a refuge to discuss things with people in similar situations.
14-08-2012 10:47 #35
As with Benji, I would have been stressed and we would have both gone hungry had it not been for me working, but to say "kids don't care" as a blanket statement is just as bad as saying it is harmful as a blanket statement.
14-08-2012 10:56 #36
I think genetics and personality have much more to do with how smart, stressed, anxious, socially confident etc children are/become than childcare. It's such an individual thing. I think the whole childcare debate is kinda null and void really.
14-08-2012 11:05 #37
Note to self - never spend a dime on a Nem Fox book!
14-08-2012 11:17 #38
14-08-2012 11:21 #39
14-08-2012 11:22 #40
Apologies working parents, I didn't see what section this was in, either. Downfall of "New Posts" button. I didn't mean to offend, just wanted to read more about the research.
Don't forget you may be damned if you do, and SAHM's are damned if we don't. Can't win when you're a mother.
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