I found out today that my baby died ( was 10 weeks + 5) I had bleeding this morning and my OB booked me in for a scan so at 10am they confirmed baby had died , by 2pm I was in hospital ready to have a curette , it all went ok , no known reason, just one of those things, my DR said we can try again and now I'm just numb from crying, DH has been amazing and my mum and sister are my rocks but I'm here now by myself ( was sleeping with DH and DS but got up as i cant sleep) i keep thinking I can't do this again, I've got one beautiful son so as much as I want another baby I don't think I could go through this again , I know it's early and I may change my mind but for those who have experienced loss did you get pregnant again and did you worry even more knowing what could go wrong? Should I just be grateful for the one I have ? Sorry if I'm rambling I just needed to get it out
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24-07-2012 21:36 #1
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24-07-2012 21:39 #2Senior Member
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oh hun im so sorry to hear what has happened. i couldn't read and not give you a virtual hug.
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24-07-2012 21:41 #3
So sorry for your loss
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24-07-2012 21:50 #4
Oh I am so sorry to hear that How devastating for you
After my loss, at first I felt that I would not be able to go through pregnancy again...but then I felt an almost insatiable need to be pregnant again. We feel pregnant with my DS2 and I was pretty stressed about losing another baby, but a part of me knew that it was going to be okay (especially as the pregnancy progressed).
Go gently, thinking of you
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24-07-2012 21:57 #5
24-07-2012 22:00 #6
I am so sorry for your loss.
After my losses (2 between dd1 and ds1 and than dd3 twin) i felt like this for a while. It is a normal part of the grieving process. I went on to have 5 more beautiful bubs. Give yourself time.
24-07-2012 22:03 #7Senior Member
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No advice but sorry to hear of your loss
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24-07-2012 22:10 #8
I am so sorry for your loss, such devastating news! Sending massive hugs xx
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24-07-2012 22:20 #9
So sorry for your loss xx
When I lost my first bub I felt the need to get pregnant straight away, luckily for me it only took 2 cycles after the d&c to get dd.
I was constantly worried during my subsequent pregnancies. I did have another loss between my dd and ds.
I guess it's a mothers job to worry.
Be kind to yourself xx
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24-07-2012 22:21 #10
Hi there , I'm so sorry to hear about your loss :-(
I think it's a massive roller coaster of emotions after a miscarriage and everyone feels different , I found out at 12 weeks that I'd miscarried. I was shocked and desperate to get pregnant again immediately . I went on to have two healthy pregnancies which resulted in ds and dd . Yes I did worry more with those two pregnancies , I think that's inevitable .
Allow yourself to feel any way you like , don't beat yourself up that you should be grateful for having one beautiful child , your entitled to grieve your loss irrespective of the amount of children you have . I'm glad to hear you have support , rest and take care of yourself , and give yourself time to work through all the emotions and feelings and fear of another pregnancy . I think many women feel this way.
My two friends were both adamant after their losses that they weren't trying again ( one had no children and the other already had two) . I just remember they slowly retreated from that feeling and began thinking hey I think I can do this again , I want to try again.
Sorry again , lots of love xxoo
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