yeah I agree he has no right to privacy. if I stayed the conditions would be I have complete access to any electronic communication.
I'd consider it an "affair" rather than "cheating"... which imo is far worse (to me) the premeditated and planned nature of his actions would hurt me worst than a drunken "mistake". I'm pretty sympathetic to how a lot of bad decisions can happen in a short period of time.
but an emotional affair, planned affair would crush me and I don't know how I'd rebuild trust tbh.
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22-07-2012 14:51 #24Senior Member
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Absolutely its cheating imo.
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22-07-2012 15:14 #25
yeah I think it's cheating because the intent was there. I'm really feeling for you I know it's hard my ex was a Cheater thankfully my husband is amazing.
trust is a funny thing to me actions speak louder than words sorry is never enough and doesn't really mean anything normally they are sorry they got caught not fit their actions
if you want if to work you in the future you need to find out why other than being a douche he felt he had to seek comfort in another and whether it's something that can be fixed
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22-07-2012 15:21 #26
I do think it's cheating, but I don't think it HAS to mean the end of the relationship. It really depends on the both of you. But I agree you need to try and find an answer to the why question
22-07-2012 15:24 #27
The intent to cheat is just as bad as cheating imo. Ive had an ex do a similar thing.. Although I dropped his a*** for lots of reasons, not just the fb s3xy talk. *If* everything else was perfect I may try to work past it. He definitely wasn't worth it though and I never really trusted him in the first place anyway.
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22-07-2012 15:31 #28
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22-07-2012 15:34 #29
As PPs have pointed out, this was in no way your fault. I would be concerned that he is making a habit of manipulating you into taking full responsiblity for everything. I bet he makes you feel so guilty for feeling like you can't trust him or that you want to check his emails, makes you feel like it is your problem that you need to move on from. Try to be objective when he handles situations to check if he is trying to turn it around onto you.
You have every right not to trust him. He was in the wrong. You need to look out for #1 and he should be doing everything in the world to prove to you that he can be trusted again.
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22-07-2012 15:46 #30
Ive been through the same but it went on for a long time. MSG me if you want to talk. x x
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