Just to clarify for any first time mothers reading this, most people forget the pain and difficulty very quickly, if we didn't then there would only be one child families everywhere. But do leave your dignity at the hospital door, feel free to pick it up on your way out, after drs and nurses poke and prod at your bits. Birthing the placenta was a shock to me then they put pain medication up my bum without telling me yuk. It's all worth it in the end.
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17-07-2012 19:14 #21Member
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17-07-2012 19:19 #22
When waters break ( mine wasn't a huge gush or anything) every time you get a contraction more keeps coming out. Not real eligant when the nurse is examining you he he he. Feels like your peeing yourself and you can't stop it.
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17-07-2012 19:27 #23
Let me think...
-that breast feeding isn't as easy as they make it out to be in movies..takes a lot of time and effort to get baby to latch on, especially in the early days
-how painful your boobs get in the first few days after birth while waiting for your milk to come in...omg mine were like rocks!!!
-how weird and jelly like your tummy feels after bub is born (and for me this was after a c-section..assuming it's the same for people who have a natural birth)
-dignity is out the window once you have a child...from nurses checking and changing my bloody pads, having a nurse give me a sponge bath (I wasn't allowed out of bed until day 3 due to a PPH and needing several blood transfusions) and midwives grabbing my boobs and nipples to help get DS to latch on..I didn't care in the end but I was trying to cling to my last shred of dignity at first.
-that it really hurts getting up for the first time after a c-section. I think this may have been because I had to stay in bed longer than normal though. But for me this was absolute agony, and I cried.
17-07-2012 19:28 #24Senior Member
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Breastfeeding is also not always like in the movies. Your milk may not come in quickly (mine came in day 5 and I had a screaming hungry little man on my hands and the baby blues to contend with). It is ok though, you are not abnormal, and your milk will come in eventually!
If your milk doesn't come in as quickly as for other mums, you might have to give your bub some formula in the meantime. This is not the end of the world, you are not a bad mum, you are not a failure. And if you stick at it, breastfeeding will still work!
Dummies, when used sparingly, do not mean that breastfeeding won't work, your child won't sleep, or your child won't speak properly. Some bubs just love to suck - they find it comforting.
If you have a boy, when putting on the nappy make sure you point their willy down. If not, the nappy will leak out the top and the legs and you'll wonder why you have so much washing to do.
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17-07-2012 20:09 #25Senior Member
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Signing up to this thread... Really need to know this stuff!
17-07-2012 20:21 #26
What they haven't told you: that it doesn't matter what we tell you, you'll have to basically find out for yourself, it is nothing like what people tell you and you can't really prepare for it :-)
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17-07-2012 20:27 #27
For me I didn't know beforehand that:
- I would have broken sleep in the last few months of pregnancy and lose the ability to sleep in even though I had the opportunity!
- That all the medical intervention I feared was actually totally fine (epidural, stitches and my biggest fear - a catheter!)
- that you really shouldn't try to do exercise in the first few months as your pelvic floor needs lots of rest!
- that breastfeeding doesn't always work out and it's perfectly fine to use formula.
- that dummies can be a big help!
- That I was capable of loving someone so much and that my little girl would be the most amazing thing that could ever happen to me.
Good luck and enjoy the journey xo
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17-07-2012 20:33 #28
That when your milk comes in your boobs are huge and they hurt like hell
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17-07-2012 20:35 #29
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17-07-2012 20:37 #30
Oh god! All of your answer, whilst enlightening, are absolutely terrifying!
My partner, despite having a huge heart deep down, is a complete jokester with no filter from brain to mouth and I know will be pulling faces at me, hiding his eyes and holding back laughter and or screams during childbirth. Even though I know he won't mean to upset me I'm worried he won't be ready for all of the above should it happen and will make me feel terrible...
SO on a slightly unrelated topic: How do I prepare my partner for dealing with the things you don't know or wouldn't expect about childbirth and the first few days/weeks after?
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