Historically, I found it very hard to be sympathetic and was one of the more judgmental people I knew.
But since doing a fair bit of reading on the philosophy of free will, I've become much more cautious about judging people on the decisions they make.
I still slip into 'hardline' mode every so often but it's something I'm conscious of now.
**Edit - that's not to say I think people shouldn't be held responsible for their actions**
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14-07-2012 20:54 #41Senior Member
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14-07-2012 21:18 #43
I was wondering whether you mean that the truly 'bad' people you have encountered are likely sociopaths? Or different to sociopaths?
14-07-2012 21:25 #44
I try to find the logic behind things, i dont understand people very well, but i relate to sadness quite easily.
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14-07-2012 21:28 #45
I don't believe they are sociopaths though - these 'bad' ppl knew and understood exactly how others felt, understood society expectations and norms, were extremely controlled with their voilence and expression of voilence. I don't know if they felt guilt though, they prob did rationlise their behaviour (I was too young to really know).
Anyway, its just how I feel - I don't believe it was some consequence of my upbringing or my way of procesing things and applying a reason or whatever. It is just that over time I have accepted that some ppl are bad.
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14-07-2012 22:10 #47Senior Member
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I am reasonably left wing/civil liberties/social justice/bleeding heart etc so I tend to be sympathetic and like to take things on a case-by-case basis.
My partner claims I have an inner Liberal when it comes to people not working or being on Centrelink, and he says that I expect other people to be resilient like I am. He is probably right and I do have to watch myself in that area. He's a psychologist and tends to be very sympathetic to everybody.
I think the more you hear about people's individual circumstances and struggles, the more sympathetic you become.
14-07-2012 22:14 #48
I admit sometimes I do judge, usually child abuse. But I do try to walk a mile in someone else's shoes. I try to ask why rather than jumping to judge. Life is grey, not black and white, and having a black and white approach to everything gives a very one dimensional, cold view of the world.
Not saying I'm perfect and never judge, like I say, I do sometimes. But I try not to....
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15-07-2012 10:19 #49
Yeah, I think it would be hard to find someone who never judges, ever.
I do find the cold, black and white attitude hard to understand.
15-07-2012 10:55 #50
I'm pretty cold hearted when it comes to illegal activities I think? A bit of a you do the crime you do your time type person but when that time is done and dusted I'm pretty good as moving on with a few exceptions (child abuse especially).
Otherwise I'm a bleeding heart I always try to see the best in people and the smallest things make me emotional.
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