Wastingtime- your kids sound exactly like mine! Like, EXACTLY! I swear they are getting worse as they get older, (or maybe it's just that another child has been thrown into the mix?), and I too believe in natural consequences. But when it's one child (dd1) always making the other late it's not really fair, and like yours, mine think they're good if they get away with wearing their hair down etc because we run out of time! Grrrr!
Oh, and my DS takes ages to eat breaky, I offer him a banana in the car if he's taking too long.
Smileygirl- completely agree with your posts, it's so frustrating but obviously yelling isn't changing anything and i completely agree its not effective. The only purpose it serves is letting off steam, and then you just feel like crap for the rest of the day
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16-07-2012 12:32 #141Senior Member
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16-07-2012 15:27 #142
With regards to TV, mine kids always got up pretty early (and before me) and put the TV on, turning it off when it was time to get ready. I have recently implemented a no TV until dressed with shoes on. I put their uniforms on the lounge for them to put on when they got up. That way at least they are mostly dressed, and can watch TV while they eat brekky. However your two might be a bit young, if they are still getting uniforms dirty at breakfast time.
Anyway, good luck and I'm sure you will find ways to make your morning run a bit smoother *most* of the time
16-07-2012 15:59 #143
I was just haring what works for me as I've had to relax about things that used to stress me out with DS and not sweat it, that's all.
I really was only trying to help. Wow
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Annabella I'm sorry you're going through it but I am so glad I am not alone!! I find myself questioning my parenting skills when their behaviour is getting worse when it should be getting better!!
Kaybaby - I hope it continues too! It felt great and set the tone for the rest of the day! My tv is password protected because they were getting up and turning it on, then refusing to turn it off, or turning it off but then turning it back on as soon as I left the room. Now it's only on when I'm trying to organise dinner on my own after they've cleaned up their toys. It saves three tired kids fighting and makes the evenings run a bit smoother!
16-07-2012 16:46 #145Senior Member
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This is me too, arrggh. School mornings are like this in my house. I end up frazzled and we are having a great morning if I manage to brush my hair.
I only have one at school but have 4 kids 5 years and under so we all have to get up and out. I only just got to a point where it wasn't so bad last term and then the holidays came! I am not looking forward to tomorrow!
16-07-2012 16:47 #146
I've only read some of the posts but this is what always sticks in my head :
Loads and loads of mothers have been before me and succedeed. If they did/can then so can I :-)
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16-07-2012 23:43 #147
Hi everyone- thought I'd add my 2cents worth! I think the chart is fantastic! I recommend it to everyone with hectic mornings! works for my 8yr old, i have DD 8 and DS 16mths, couldnt help smiling reading these posts about getting ready in the morning! I thought these things happen only at my place but even though the chart is great we still sometimes get off track and I find myself howling "HURRY UP!!" I don't think it's over thinking to expect your kids to stick to a morning routine- I know if I didn't we'd never get out before midday.
And as for yelling I'm guilty of that occasionally- I try my best not to but sometimes it's a quick fix- by far not the best solution I know- and since having my second I see how totally different it was parenting only 1 child, as we have quite a large gap.I can relate to everyone who says some days they just push your buttons and you yell, sometimes I count to 10, walk away, but other times I might yell. I don't think that makes me a bad parent nor is it damaging my child.
I believe that children need structure and discipline, just as they do love, so that's how we run our household. I think we (mums) all do the best we can with what we've got! It's great to get ideas from other mums and try new things- sometimes they may even work
17-07-2012 11:41 #148
Hi, wow. what a thread!
ummm i just wanted to post an update: ive really cut down on my yelling. I think having DH home during school holidays (teacher) messed me up. I was used to doing everything by myself and i got annoyed having him wandering around not knowing what to do with himself. Routine was all over the place and it obviously effected dd a bit. Ive calmed down, dh back at work and our days are back to normal.
The odd occasions i have raised my voice at dd as of late, she has begun to look at me and say "mumma?" then comes over and hugs me. Im not sure what thats about but it makes me feel awful raising my voice at her.
Eye contact, kneeling down and a stern voice seems to be working well.
17-07-2012 14:10 #149
Sounds like yelling has caused confusion and worry for your baby. I'm glad things are going ok.
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