THANK YOU for the Private step parent group link. I will most definitely be joining you there.
Thank you to all of you who can understand my predicament and who support me.
Hubby knows as well as me, that the love you have for step children is not the same love you have for your own children (we are both step parents). He understands this but finds it so difficult to accept.
My own DD has not even met her father. I have raised her for 15years on my own.
I dont know how to "copy someones post and paste it, to reply to it" but to "Withloveandlimits" - you must not be a step parent. If you had any idea how hard it is to raise some one elses children, (even without having a complicated pregnancy) you would have more compassion. Also in saying this, I appreciate we are all different and have different opinions.
To EVERYONE else - Im glad im not alone in this and you can see where i am coming from. Yes i care for his children, and want whats best for them always. I just really feel that Im entitled to a well deserved break since she (the BM) has already agreed to have HER children through the day, (FOR ONCE), I want to take the opportunity to have that break as I have no clue if this will ever happen again for us. (If we were going off past history, I'd be waiting another 5 years years for such an opportunity again)!!!
Thank you also for the well wishesin this pregnancy. You ladies are such a great support, I dont know what i would do without BH!!!
Wil join that group now
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14-07-2012 07:47 #11
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14-07-2012 07:49 #12
I agree it's not about his kids and your kids it's about there being a possibility of your day being easier when you need it.
14-07-2012 07:53 #13Senior Member
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Can I please get into that group?? BM has effed up my weekend plans FIVE TIMES in the past hour. *deep breath deep breath*
OP your DP is being selfish (not unlike mine but for different reasons)!
14-07-2012 07:53 #14
Ive clicked on the link but it says i can not view the group (obviosuly as it is private). So i have sent a message to someone (??) to ask if i can join.
14-07-2012 07:56 #15
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14-07-2012 08:26 #16
So you've just been in hospital and now expected to take care of 4 kids??!! Yikes.
Sounds like you deserve and need a VERY well earned break.
Reality is they're not your kids and never will be. People that tell you otherwise aren't step parents!
Your DH needs to appreciate that you in fact raise them most of the time and break is more than reasonable. I won't even have my step child if DH isn't here.
Quality time with your DD is very important as well. It could be the last chance you both have before the new baby arrives.
Hopefully BM has them and you have a peaceful week!
I seriously take my hat off to you, I could never ever do what you do.
Join the forum by the way!!
14-07-2012 08:26 #17
I agree with both VicPark and Blue Dragon.
I can see why he was defensive, but at the same time I don't see why he suggested it at all.
It's lovely he wants his kids to be with their full time family, but useless or not, their time with BM is important and your time alone is very important too, you're about to be overwhelmed with a newborn - I too would be taking all opportunities to get that quiet time and rest (even if they were my own kids).
I hope he can start seeing things from your POV.
14-07-2012 08:33 #18
Angenrod, I sent you a PM.
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14-07-2012 08:53 #19
Can I join that group too please?
I am a mumma of 7, 3 of the 7 are my stepkids, and 2 of those 3 live full time with us. I completely understand what your saying.
I love all 7 of my kids to the moon and back and will go to the end of the world for them if I need to, but sometimes you just need a little break.
14-07-2012 09:00 #20Senior Member
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I'm not a step mother but I get it. I think you should say you love his kids, but even if they were yours youd still want a break.
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