I hate it when people get all judge-y without knowing what happened.
Every time I see someone with a toddler (or even younger!) that's all bruised up, my instant thought is either "someone's learning to walk!" or "someone's not learnt how to stop running!" lmao.
If the child looks happy and well cared for, my assumption is not that the parent is beating them but that the child is simply doing what kids do. And getting the war wounds to prove it *chuckle*.
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11-07-2012 12:36 #21
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11-07-2012 13:27 #23-
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When she was little my sister fell down the front steps, she had to massive black eyes.
People would say to her 'what happened to you?' They didn't even adress.mum til after she said she fell down the front steps.
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11-07-2012 13:34 #24
I was the worse when i was little i was so clumsy i would forever have cuts bruises etc... unfortunately my DS has this as well. all up the legs i get the looks as if oh.. ooh you know what they are thinking,
but try not to let it get to you, you know the truth. i guess in a way im glad the society does care that little bit.. lol.
11-07-2012 13:54 #25
My youngest brother managed to fall down a flight of stairs and cut open his forehead and get bitten on the face by a dog before the age of 3.5 years. I never asked Mum if she got 'looks' when she took him out, but I assume so. He was SO accident prone. Even as an older child he broke SO many fingers that we lost count (cricket, soccer, football, etc).
My dd is only 9 months and is still learning to pull herself up on things. 2 weeks ago, she tried to pull herself up on a low windowsill at playgroup then let go and bumped her cheek on the windowsill --> her first black eye. Thankfully it was only small & she's all better now. Just waiting for her next injury though as she's quite adventerous.
My nephew got a massive bump earlier this year (he's almost 8 now). He just ran into another boy when they were running around playing and got a massive egg on his forehead just above his eye. Wow, it was huge and in the end maybe 50% of his face was various shades of black, blue, yellow and green. It was bad for over 2 weeks from memory. I joked with my SIL that she must have taken him into class the next day to explain to the teacher ... she had! She was glad he didn't get concussion, but the bruise looked so bad that lots of people freaked out thinking he must have a serious head injury. To my knowledge no-one outright suggested he was injured by his parents (directly or indirectly).
11-07-2012 18:21 #26
My DS (22 months) has two black eyes this week!! He was playing cars on the pavers and face planted right into his nose! He has a scraped up nose and two black eyes for he effort (not super black but noticeably bruised!!)
Nobody has said anything other than 'boys!' with rolled eyes lol!!!!
ETA: he often has bruises on his forehead and scrapes on his face!!! He sounds a lot like your DD!!!
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11-07-2012 18:39 #27
Jasper fell running head first into the corner of the coffee table at about 13 months. He was right in front of me and there was nothing I could have done.
Then came for nearly 2 weeks before the black eye went away constant glares and stares and the odd "what happened?!?" - though lots of knowing smiles, sighs and smirks from other mum's.
but DF had someone on the train look in shock and flat out say "what did YOU do?"... dfs response? - "kicked him in the head"
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11-07-2012 19:06 #28-
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Oh huge hugs to you, I can totally relate to your situation as my eldest is one of those children that seems to land himself in all kinds of situations aswell.
Unfortunetly for me, when DS1 was 17months he pulled A pot of boiling hot water off the stove onto himself, I don't know how he managed it, I was in the same room as him but turned my head for a split second and then there was that scream. DS1 spent a week in RCH and then the next couple of months getting his burns cleaned and dressed with silver, he was covered in bandages with all kinds of tubes for water irrigation coming out of them, it was heartbreaking seeing him like this. The looks, comments and judgement I received was of the worst kind, I felt like the worlds worst mother, to top it off I was 34weeks pregnant with DS2 when it happened and almost sent my self into premature labour from all the stress I was under.
Hope your LO's eye heals up quickly
11-07-2012 19:21 #29
Last week, dd was giving me a cuddle then jumped and her head hit the bottom of my mouth. A week later the swelling down the left side has gone down, but soon after it happened she was jumping again and her mouth hit my hand, so going shopping, my face was swollen and bruised and she had a split, fat lip. No, we do not engage in fist fights, but the looks were awful. I never tried to explain it, saying she head-butted me, and my hand hit her mouth, it really sounds as bad as it looks.
11-07-2012 19:22 #30
Oh dear! I think people who stare clearly don't have kids/forgot about the ****** of injuries. My little man is 17 months also, and is amazing at finding ways to do damage. Honestly, you can't watch them constantly and no matter how child proof your house is, there are going to be accidents with curious toddlers around.
I hope your little one is feeling ok!
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