Agree with other posters. Small children need personal space too. And a hug or kiss is so much more meaningful when its spontaneous!
I usually just get my DS to give high fives. If he doesn't want to, thats fine too.
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11-07-2012 13:03 #31Member
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11-07-2012 13:15 #32
Close family (and people they see on a regular basis) I ask DD1 and DD2 to give them a kiss and cuddle bye bye but if they say no I leave it. I would never make them do it. I ask them for losses and cuddles before giving them one as well.
11-07-2012 13:23 #33
DS is a massive flirt! He would kiss and cuddle everyone if he had the chance! He blows kisses to random strangers in the supermarket! We are an overly affectionate family though, we kiss , hug and say I love you to my mum/dad/brother/sister/nieces all the time so it's natural for him to imitate as he copies us, DH family are like that now too but i would never force DS to do anything, I just say to go and say goodbye but it's just natural now for him so he always runs up and says hello/good bye and give kisses to family
11-07-2012 14:09 #34
Call me niave/stupid/clueless but I must admit this thread has opened my eyes to see things from a toddlers point of view. I've never forced my daughter to hug or kiss anyone (family or otherwise) but I have *asked* her to in the past, if she said no I would never push it.
Nevertheless, I think I'll rephrase my asking her to hug or kiss to "would you like to".
Thanks for this thread
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11-07-2012 15:01 #35
I have never forced a child to give a 'kiss or hug' to anyone. Now I even ask my grand children if they have a 'hug for grandma', if they dont, I say, I have a hug for you, is it alright for me to give you a hug?? Always, they have final say. I believe children have to always have the right to say 'No" when anyone is in thier physical space. I always ask permission, never force anyone to do anything. Marie.
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11-07-2012 15:03 #36
No I don't.
11-07-2012 15:13 #37Senior Member
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No way. I don't even ask my son to hug or kiss someone. I might say "say hello" or "say goodbye" to whoever, but that's about the extent of it.
11-07-2012 19:14 #38
My DD has a sensory processing disorder and touch can be really traumatic for her, so definitely no!
My DS will kiss anyone and everything..... Usually we are trying to make him stop lol!!!!
11-07-2012 21:06 #39
11-07-2012 21:08 #40
I think it's wrong to force it. Good manners don't include having to touch other people after all. I might demand she say hello, goodbye and thank you but not demand she touch anyone.
I do say, "go give nanny a hug," or something but it's just my way of telling her to say goodbye. I know she's fine with hugging my mum.
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