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    Default Anyone else had a long-term aggressive toddler but no diagnosable issue?

    My DS is nearly 3 and for the last 2 years (since he was 1) he has been almost unable to have a single playdate with any other child without constantly shoving, tackling, hitting, kicking, throwing things, hitting with objects etc. I have seen a paed who specialises in child behaviour who didn't help at all, and now have an appointment in two weeks with a psychologist through the community health service. He doesn't have a condition like ASD or ADHD or ODD, its just 'him'. But he can't continue being this version of 'him'. He is a hot tempered kid with no self control, is prone to huge aggressive tantrums, hits us when he is angry or just being naughty, tells us to "go away" and "shut up" (learnt that one from me yelling at the neighbours dogs - whoops!).

    It reaches a head every so often and I think THIS NEEDS TO STOP! but then, like today, I get an appointment or make headway and think second guess myself and wonder if I'm being a bit obsessed or dramatic about it. I know deep down I'm not, his daycare educator has seen it (although nowhere near as bad at daycare as playdates, which we can't figure out) and says its like Jekyl and Hyde (sp?) when he does it. He was nearly expelled from daycare last year because of it. And I have friends who avoid playdates with me because of his behaviour towards their kids.

    Anyone else been in the same boat? What did you do? I'm thinking of videoing the behaviour and showing the shrink so she can see what I mean because its hard to explain what he is like when he is in a manic kind of state like that. Hopefully she can give me a plan of attack.

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    You poor thing, must be exhausting!
    I really have no experience but I was wondering if you had done any research into the failsafe diet? I know foods affect my 2 boys behaviour, especially DS2 who is 3. He has no known diagnosed allergies (whereas DS1 has official allergies including anaphylaxis).
    I know some BHers swear by a change in diet to help behaviour.
    Good Luck.

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    Thanks FOBS, yes we have looked into the failsafe (and similar) diets and he is not eating the big no-nos in his day to day diet. We follow a pretty much additive free diet already and I'm 99% sure its not a diet thing. Kind of unfortunate, at least if it was I could have something concrete to blame! Thanks for the suggestion though

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    Quote Originally Posted by lolly137 View Post
    Have you had his hearing checked?
    I was just going to ask the same question.

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    No we haven't had hearing checked, although we have got a referral because of a minor speech delay. I hadn't organised the check because I dont think he has any trouble hearing - but its worth doing anyway since I've got the referral!
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    Quote Originally Posted by sunnymummy View Post
    I was just going to ask the same question.
    I've read a few articles that and posts from mums that link hearing problems to bad behavior

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    bit out of left field but my nephew was liek this when he was younger and fro no 'apparent reason'. My sister took him to see a kinseologist for about 7mths and it made all the difference (of course they had to continue with with their day to day education of appropriate behaviour, watch his food and all that stuff but he became a calm, friendly little boy who is now adjusted as school/socially.

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    eta: his dad is hot heated and I think it is partially in his nature, but its certainly more balanced and alot more clam these days.

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    Update: went to psych and, to my relief, agreed that it's something that needs looking in to. She is coming to do an observation on him at home and at his daycare. She is also going to give me a stack of evaluations and tests to fill out for her to evaluate and score to check for ADHD, ASD, and others. She seems to be most interested in ADHD (atypical as he is able to focus on things that like TV but then gets manically hyper other times) and Pervasive Developmental Disorder Not Otherwise Specified (PDD-NOS). Also, she thinks he has an underdeveloped self regulation/control issue. I'm really pleased she is looking into it and I'll update again when we know more incase anyone else has the same issue and struggles to get professionals to listen too, because of the young age.


 

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