I am a massive stress head it really gets me down and in turn makes me stress more ha. I stress about everything. Money, DD, our struggles with having another baby, work, my body, keeping everyone happy.
It's really taking it's toll on me and has made me really sick in recent weeks. I'm going to start seeing someone and see if that helps.
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09-07-2012 14:15 #21Senior Member
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09-07-2012 14:18 #22Bubhub Ambassador - tongue in cheek
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Stress is entirely normal.
Its roots are generally from fear of not being in control/being able to control your situation.
Obviously if you feel you are in control of your situation/life/finances/studys/deadlines. then you probably wouldn't feel stressed often.
If you are in control of all these things and you still often feel stressed, then this is when anxiety conditions come into it.
Some people are more prone to stress and usually because they have fewer coping mechanisms for every day 'stressors'. (I'm not referring anxiety conditions which can be mental conditions aswell)
09-07-2012 14:18 #23
When I was stressed as a teenager over whatever drama I was having, I would pick a date on my calendar in the future and tell myself that I would very likely be less worried or upset about whatever was going on by that date.
Now when I am stressed and jumping to the absolute worst conclusion about how something is going to turn out, I ask myself how often I have been right in predicting how things will turn out in the past.....I'm a pretty lousy psychic .
I'm a bit of a stress-head at times, but thinking about my worries in this way helps a lot.
09-07-2012 14:20 #24
Yeah I stress. Not excessively though. I think it helps me get my butt into gear though!
09-07-2012 14:31 #25
I used to stress a lot more, and it made me into an angry controlling person. Counselling helped HEAPS in making me stress less. I had a real lightbulb moment when i was doing an exercise in which i had to stop during a situation where i was stressed and think - what was the worst possible outcome and how would i deal with it? I find even in really really awful worst case scenarios that i can dream up, i have plenty of support and resources to cope with whatever it is.
The situation I realised that things would be ok was stressing one day because DS wouldn't take his morning nap. I stopped and thought- what's the worse that could happen? He will be cranky for the rest of the day and maybe all night too and we will both have a sh!tty day. That was 100% likely to happen if he didn't sleep and I was stressed about it. When i let go of the stress, it was only 50% llikely to happen. I was guaranteeing the worst case scenario just by believing it would happen! Well, he didn't sleep and we had a shi!t day anyway, LOL, but at least i could blame him not me and it wasn't so bad after all.
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09-07-2012 14:44 #26Senior Member
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I'm like you Op I dont stress very much at all about anything and am a very go with the flow kinda person. I am very lucky though in that I have never had much happen 'to' me except every day life stuff (i.e Ive never suffered abuse, dealt with major illness or major financial issues).
I did though grow up with a mother who was a major stresshead and my brother is now the same however Im more like my dad. I think to some point stressing is a choice but then that its also biological/in a persons temperament early on.
09-07-2012 15:00 #27
I never really knew what stress was till i found out that my partner was infertile and we started IVF last year. IVF for me = major stress-head. I try really hard not to be because it makes everything worse. But i guess its hard when i'm constantly on a barrage of IVF med and injections (and their yukky side effects), millions of blood tests (almost every day in a cycle) and scans, worrying about what cycle day it is, trying to work out egg pick up retrevial's around DP's fifo roster, and scheduling in specialist appointments, accupuncture sessions all while trying to work fulltime and keep my sanity
I've literally never been more stressed in my life. My DP is a lot calmer, and goes with the flow more. I really need to get back into some meditation and stuff the 2nd half of this year. Stress sucks! Especially when it starts showing up on your face and hair. It's really not good to let it get the better of you.
09-07-2012 15:00 #28
I also have low self-esteem, and have general anxiety as well. I struggle to do anything where there is a likelihood I could be judged, irregardless of how real that likelihood is... sometimes its a struggle to go shopping
DF has a work function coming up in August and its doing my head in.. already
I also stress... incessantly... over EVERYTHING. I also have trouble sleeping thanks to my stress levels.
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09-07-2012 15:11 #29
I rarely stress, am pretty much a go with the flow type of person. Although that's not to say I don't have plenty to stress about, our oldest DD is severely disabled, in a wheelchair with a variety of health issues & we have just increased out mortgage to make the house wheelchair accessible for her.
I'm not at all religious, so it has nothing to do with "faith" getting me through. I do tend to look at the positive side, and think there are always people worse of than us. We have 3 gorgeous girls, DH has a good job that is flexible and allows him to put his family first, I also have a good part-time job that allows me to work during school hours and take any extra time off if the girls are sick. Sure things could be better, but they could also be a lot worse so we enjoy life day to day and face any hurdles as and when we need to, no point worrying or stressing the "what ifs"!
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09-07-2012 15:33 #30
Yep I stress and worry too much. I worry about being a good mum. I stress about dd's dad kidnapping dd. I worry that dd will hate me because his not around. I worry that we don't have our own place. I worry about getting sick and dieing then dd has noone. I worry that something will happen to dd she is my world. I worry something will happen to my parents or my family. I worry about my weight. I worry about doing well at Tafe. I worry about getting a job. I worry my car will break down. I worry about natural disasters. I worry worry stress stress. So yeah basically I wore and stress about things. Must be so nice not too.
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