Sorry to hear that. FWIW I think the same as others, where helping out is not the same as constantly throwing money at people. I'm guilty of giving too much help to my little brother, but at the same time he is paying back borrowed money and learnt from his mistakes. The help he is receiving following his accident is different, none of us want to be paid back for it.Sorry, yeh I guess I am defensive I have posted a few money threads lately asking for some advice on stuff and been told I am spoilt - it just p1sses me off a little.
eta: nothing to do with this thread though, but I just sick of the idea that adults have to fend for themselves, I find it a silly philosophy and i think it impacts on the emotional wellbeing of a family much more to have parents who work non stop and are never home then to have parents who are helpt our my their grandparent (from the childs perspective)
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Our parents have helped us alot but we still have to work hard regardless so we are definately not spoilt or don't understand the value of a dollar. I hope to one day help my children the same way, I can't imagine not giving them the same help I got if I could afford to. I think it'll only get harder to buy a house for example and alot of their generation will rely on parents more. Maybe.
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09-07-2012 13:09 #36
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09-07-2012 13:13 #37
I think it's beyond amazing that your father helps his kids out so selflessly. Your a very lucky lady. Am I jealous? Absolutely, DH family are very well off and won't give a a cent.
You have nothing to be ashamed of and I'm sorry I made you feel that way.
I don't think being spoilt is a bad thing, my DDs spoilt and will no doubt be for the rest of her life. if she ever asked me for anything I'd happily give it to her no matter what age.
I really am sorry again.
09-07-2012 13:18 #38
Thats ok, it wasnt at anyone specific. Just a general vibe around the place that good parents don't accept money from family and friends.
09-07-2012 13:36 #39
My brother was in an accident at the start of May, and will be off work until September. Sickness Benefits cover his car loan, with $15 extra. He will not touch that extra $15 in case something comes up. During this time, everyone has pitched in. I have given him food as in pre-prepared meals and snacks, had him here then spent time at his place, covered worming, 3rd vaccination and microchipping of his dog, first 2 (so far) vaccinations and microchipping of the dumped kitten that was outside their gate, and bought him clothing since a lot was in the van at the time of the accident. Other people have helped repair the ute, also covered food and some bills, provided food for the puppy and kitten, organised disabled alterations to the house, toilet and bathroom, bought him a new bed that is more comfortable for him, all sorts of practical things like moing, cleaning, walking the dog. But in saying that, he organised a charity concert for a family who lost their mother. He has done a lot of community work, gives up his time to help others, and there is give and take. With his mistakes early this year, I bailed him out twice but made it clear it was simply a loan, if I just bailed him out, he would have done it again. And again. And again lol. So I see different situations as being independent from others.
What I can't stand, and see a lot, is people with loads of family help who put others down for not doing uni, buying a house, owning a car, getting a ft job and so on, when the only reason they can work or study ft is because other people pay for it and look after the kids. Or they lived with family in order to work full time (live rent free) to save for a house. An old workmate said all the time how she was single (she had a bf who paid for heaps) and managed to buy a house, when she bought the housing commission house she lived in using money she had inherited from her grandmother and the sale of the house she inherited, which also paid for a 30k car. While I think it was great, and really nice of her grandmother, the attitude sickens me. Perfect example of spoilt brat. A close friend of mine came into far more money, but money never made her an arrogant b!tch like the other one.
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I am very grateful that I have a mother who is able to help me at times. Otherwise my DS wouldn't be getting the support with his special needs that he requires. My mother has already offered to help pay for his special school when the time comes.
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