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    Default Lots of questions!

    Hello,
    I just joined this forum site. I am nearly 26, married for almost a year to a wonderful man. My husband is 25 and would love a baby sometime soon but I am so nervous. I had tried going off the pill a few times but end up feeling quite panicked about the whole thing and go back on as it is the safer option! I have had some depression, anxiety and body issues in the past few years and I am terrified of the changes to my body, our lifestyle, our sex life especially lol, I am nervous about how a baby will change our time together. Have other people had these worries, and how did you overcome them. I definitely do want children, but just can't seem to get past these fears. Any advice would be very appreciated. I know I am not pregnant as yet, but hope no one minds me posting in this forum! Thank you

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    these are completely normal feelings. I had them once I actually got pregnant. There is a saying though. If you wait until you feel ready or until the time is right you will (in most cases) be waiting a looong time. Things come up, timing is all wrong, not financially secure enough... In all honesty it is terrifying to become a parent when you realise you are responsible for the life of a tiny human being. But you get over that and get on with it. Things usually have a way of working themselves out. Things do change. No denying that. But it doesnt have to be the end of life as you know it, just a new version. A new rewarding version.

    Maybe try talking to your Dr about your fears. See if there is anything he/she can do.

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    it's totally normal and it sounds like a conversation I had with my husband only a few weeks ago...I'm 33 weeks pregnant lol

    there is never going to be a 'right' time and things are going to change but change is good, it's a new chapter in our life.

    ps sex life is still great even when pregnant ; )

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    I was reading your post, thinking exactly what's already been said: if you wait until you're ready, it'll never happen.

    The other thing I think is really important to know is that when your situation changes (no matter what it is - baby, house, death in the family, whatever), you adapt to it better and quicker than you would've expected you could, mainly because you have to, y'know? Having a baby is one of the most amazing experiences we can ever have. And I know DH and I are constantly looking at our 4 boys and, even though they drive us nuts half the time, we can't imagine life without them, and we would never change any of the decisions we made that got us to this point in our lives

    HTH!

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    How you are feeling is completly normally but going of your forum name 86 if you are born in 1986 you are still young. Maybe wait another year and re-evaluate. Cause once you do have children everything does change, for the better i think but definetly a huge change. I think personally you will know when it is the right time. You will still be scared but you will know. Good luck.


 

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