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    A friend of mine is very petite and has a 3 yr, he looks like a sumo wrestler. He eats terribly(she doesn't) and honestly I just feel so bad for him. Do I say something? If so then How/what do I say

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    Ohhhhh good one. With looking like a sume wrestler, I assume we're talking fat and not muscle?
    I think if she was a close friend of mine, I might actually honestly yet tactfully communicate my concerns to her.

    If she was "just" a friend, I might drop a hint like "WOW! I can't believe how big he is! Though to me it seems that he doesn't take after you, does he?"

    Or else I would just not mention anything.
    I'm sure that when the child needs to see a health professional for some kind of reason (vaccinations, GP, government health check, etc) they would tell her that they were concerned about him (if it truly is that bad).

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    I wasn't trying to e rude, I'm fat 151cms tall and 90kg and honestly I'm worried about him. She's a close friend and I don't know if I should say something or not

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    No hun, I wasn't saying you're rude I was just wondering with what you meant by sumo wrestlers. Some sumo wrestlers are not just fat, they have quite a bit of muscle too.

    If she's a close friend, I would try and sit down with her alone and have a chat.
    Tell her that there is something that has been worrying me for a while, but I have been afraid of confiding in her because Im worried of losing a dear friend.

    If she asked me what is wrong, then I would just tell her that I am really worried about her son. That she is petite but that her son is so big. There could be a medical reason as to why he seems to be so big. It could be that he's holding fluids or something.
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    It really is a tough one. Do you know her husband/partner or other family members of her who you could talk to?

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    Sorry for the misunderstanding.
    Its not muscle, I think I'm just going to say that I'm worried about his health and that I don't want her to think I'm being horrible but I think it needs to be looked into. She's eats terribly herself but has a really fast metabolism maybe I could say how some people Don't process "bad" food as easily as others

    Eta both our families are friends we grew up together. Maybe I could talk to her mum?

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    I maybe wouldn't concentrate on the fact that he's fat but the fact that he's eating bad food. I'd be talking to her about healthy eating, exercise etc etc. Maybe you could organise to do some exercise with her and her boy? Like going for a walk around the park and then a play on the park for the boy?

    Talk about how bad eating causes a bad diet in the future when they're an adult and the effects bad eating has on the body. Just because someone is skinny doesn't mean they're healthy.

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    I wouldn't say anything. Odds are she has noticed it and if she hasn't, her dr or mchn will say something.

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    Quote Originally Posted by daysta112 View Post
    I wasn't trying to e rude, I'm fat 151cms tall and 90kg and honestly I'm worried about him. She's a close friend and I don't know if I should say something or not
    I too am overweight and would be hesitant to give anyone advice on being healthier as its the pot calling the kettle black don't you think?

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    IMO it is not your right or obligation to say anything. Unless you are with them 24/7, there's no way for you to know what he is eating. Chances are, she is aware of her son's weight, so I can't imagine you would be telling her something she doesn't already know. It is between her, her child, and their health provider.
    All the best

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