I'm not offended often by things people say about different techniques, because I personally am happy with the way I parent. The few times I have been offended, I have concluded that it was because I wasn't exactly at peace with that aspect of my parenting, and I changed them accordingly.
If people don't agree with what I do, so what? That doesn't affect me.
Constructive criticism people, you can learn from it
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03-07-2012 17:46 #21-
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03-07-2012 17:51 #22
Im glad i dont parent 'the old way' the old way lead to many many many people with autism, being unrecognised, labelled as naughty/black sheep/weirdo, rejected, beaten to behave and so on.
03-07-2012 18:26 #23
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03-07-2012 18:51 #24Senior Member
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In a way I agree with every post on this thread!
OP you are right, kids should be allowed to be kids. BUT we are raising a generation of little people in a whole different world to the one we grew up in and they need to be challenged, parented and educated in different ways than we were.
As for parents competing against each other - I cant stand it!! But a little bit of debate never hurt anybody, right?
Oh and Diamondeyes, i work with children with autism and see how amazing they are, only 20 years ago they wouldve been in the naughty corner in schools from reception to year 12, and completely misunderstood so i fully agree with you! Much better world now for special needs kiddos!
03-07-2012 19:02 #25
This is just how the hub is, some days it seems like everyone is scratching each others eyes out, other days its all rainbows and butterflies. Good, bad, indifferent, and everything in between. Don't let it get to you, just take what you like and need, and ignore the bad (or sit back and enjoy the ride )
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03-07-2012 20:17 #26
And I personally love watching how a thread on abc can morph into a heated debate about xyz. Some days if I'm tired or grouchy I take it all personally and it's a pain but mostly I sit back and enjoy the ride
03-07-2012 20:47 #27
I have only been a member for a little while now but I haven't really noticed that much in the way of "attacks" on other members. I am a member of other, non-parenting forums, and they are a lot worse than BH! In every forum I'm a part of, 9 times out of 10, the person doing the "attacking" is the OP who doesn't like the replies they get to their post. Not saying this is you, Blondi, but this is just what I have noticed in most of the threads that turn "nasty".
As I said, I'm a newbie, maybe I've missed some of the cracker threads?
Mostly I think everyone here is pretty open minded and I am really grateful that I can use everyone else's knowledge to my advantage.
03-07-2012 21:01 #28
i read your original post as being out and about in the general public, not here on bubhub.
i agree with pp, being on bubhub means you will absolutely come up against these things and it is your choice whether to engage or let it go.
but i agree that when it comes to life in general, we forget that kids are meant to be kids. and that means letting them make their own pathway in life whether it is jumping in puddles or sitting quietly, reading books.
just because a child wants to do things their way and doesn't 'fit in the box' does not mean they need medication.
i thought as parents we were there to guide them, not force them.
yet every man and his dog seems to have more knowledge than the parent raising them.
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04-07-2012 10:22 #29
That's exactly how I feel Halloweendee, 90% of the replies completely jumped off the banwagon onthis one unfortunately, everyone is so defensive these days. like I already mentioned I am 100% for support, advice and opinions, the ones I was getting at was 'oh....why would you do that, you should only do this' <<<<< thats what I was getting at but some of the replies just prooved my point at people jumping on the attack rather than thinking before they reply. I just think there are too many 'you have too's or your a bad parant' these days. So would love if people (most are on this forum ) just discussed options and opinions rather than 'YOU MUST YOU MUST' But thankyou Halloweendee for actually taking the time to read and understand my post
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